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Hello all:
Ok guys and dolls, I need your help. I am having a hell of a time decding whether to go to my nieces wedding. It is in august in North Carolina. About a 14 hour drive. I am not normally a fence sitter but on this one I am 50/50. I was 100% gonna go in April until my Taurus crapped out and had to get a new car. Several issues of putting $1500 down and now a car payment of $350 a month plus insurance I didnt have before.
Im not even sure I can do it physically. I probaly could but not sure. It is in august and gonna be hot, not good for me. I told my brother last night that I was 50/50 and he was kind of bitchy with me. My whole family will guilt me if I dont go.
Here's the other kicker. I used our tax return to get a car for me. I promised to pay wife back in June. It was wifeys and I's money. So I owe her half of our tax return back. She is of course bitching about me spending money to go to the wedding. BUT, I have a bonus coming in June from work and will EASILY pay her back the money from our tax return. I will handing her over the cash mid June. Which leads me to beleive I should wait to make this decision. But then waiting is not fair to my niece.
Dont know what to do!! Help! Time for a pros and cons list maybe?
I have to say my gut feeling is I want to go but practically it doesnt make sense. Between health and money. The rooms are $250 a night for 3-4 nights. Airfare. rent a car.
I am close with my niece but she is marrying some guy she just met, on the beach ,14 hours away
.Please offer your unadulterated opinion, I dont know what to do.:):):)
Martini
Ok guys and dolls, I need your help. I am having a hell of a time decding whether to go to my nieces wedding. It is in august in North Carolina. About a 14 hour drive. I am not normally a fence sitter but on this one I am 50/50. I was 100% gonna go in April until my Taurus crapped out and had to get a new car. Several issues of putting $1500 down and now a car payment of $350 a month plus insurance I didnt have before.
Im not even sure I can do it physically. I probaly could but not sure. It is in august and gonna be hot, not good for me. I told my brother last night that I was 50/50 and he was kind of bitchy with me. My whole family will guilt me if I dont go.
Here's the other kicker. I used our tax return to get a car for me. I promised to pay wife back in June. It was wifeys and I's money. So I owe her half of our tax return back. She is of course bitching about me spending money to go to the wedding. BUT, I have a bonus coming in June from work and will EASILY pay her back the money from our tax return. I will handing her over the cash mid June. Which leads me to beleive I should wait to make this decision. But then waiting is not fair to my niece.
Dont know what to do!! Help! Time for a pros and cons list maybe?
I have to say my gut feeling is I want to go but practically it doesnt make sense. Between health and money. The rooms are $250 a night for 3-4 nights. Airfare. rent a car.
I am close with my niece but she is marrying some guy she just met, on the beach ,14 hours away
.Please offer your unadulterated opinion, I dont know what to do.:):):)
Martini
save yourself the money and send a nice gift IMHO...good luck.
That's a tough one. If you're close with your niece, I would say go, but if you can't afford the rooms (which are very expensive) ( they could have gotten less expensive rooms) then don't go, but send her a gift. That's really a tough call and only you can really make it. Sorry I'm not much help. Why doesn't your brother let you stay with him? Just a suggestion!
Love and hugs,
Xoxoxo
Mary Ellen
It is a tough decision. I agree Seren it will be difficult. I would have to fly. The $250 a night IS the negotiated rate which does not include 14% sales tax. I am close with my niece but thats asking alot. Im looking at $300 a night hotel, $300 airfare, $200 rent a car, food drinks. My wife and I were going to make it a vacation but now she doesnt want to go cause her physcho sister has already booked her for two week long summer trips already. Her sister who is single uses her as a fake husband. Ridiculous.
ME-I can afford the rooms. I just think I could have buyers remorse when I get home after spending $2000 in four days. My brother has a wife and his own room. He's a retired millionmaire so hes got all the time and money in the world. My other brother is going and I could shack up with him but at 50 I like my privacy and he goes to bed at like 9pm.
I could cerrtainly use $2000 for other things. I guess its possible i could hit a big poker win but I dont really need to. I am gonna call my niece and see what she says. Screw my brother, its not his wedding. Maybe she will be more understanding. Send her a hundred bucks and be on my way.
Tough decision eh?
Martini
at least you be there sort of hugs min good luck hard call
She was thankful for the check. And this year they had their first baby. I am very happy even to this day that I made that decision.
Martini-the first line of defense my neuro told me is justify....to justify whatever I am going to do to my body. Will it contribute or contaminate. Traveling great distances and the body together would be a contaminate. Spending money not readily available contaminates the entire body with stress.
Love yourself, love your niece and make that call......you love her but at this point in time you really need to care and love yourself....
Peace,
Joanne
I mentioned to my dr at my last injections about driving or riding a car that long and he said absolutely not!!
We have no choice about going....its Maddy's national dance competition. You are in a tricky spot.
I'm really close to my brother and my nieces. I would go. However..my nephew who is my brother in laws son we are not close to or close to my brother in law...we would not go.
It's a lot of money. But it could be a nice get away for you!
Call her and see how she feels. I bet she would appreciate a gift of money...just starting out. Your brother will get over it!!
Good luck!!!
It's her wedding, not your brothers.
I love my niece very much and had to miss her wedding, because my body couldn't hold up to travel. She understood.....because she loves me also.
Best wishes.....
You guys are so great. I feel better now talking this out. EVERYONE has some great points. It is just a tough call. I am going to call my niece tomorrow and see what she says. My niece and I are pretty close. She is the oldest of five kids. She and I used to babysit the younger ones and have a special bond. But she would understand.
What I am going to do is talk to niece and see where shes at. Apparently there is a waiting list of overflow people and the wedding is "sold out". in that case someone can take my spot.
I think my best decision will be made at a later time closer to the wedding. So I will talk to my niece about it
and make a decision later. I like Toni's idea of maybe just making it a short trip. Thanks to all and I will let you know.
Martini
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i had a tricky situation last year about weither to go to my #2 daughters graduation or send her the cash i saved up for the trip. she choose for me to send her the money...i regret not going to see her graduate.
weddings are about plans and seating arrangements and reception parties all of which need a head count so, the sooner you make your decision the better. many hugs to you my friend
decisions decisions....good luck my friend