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Hey friends,
I wanted to just ponder and vent about a recent event in my life. I had a very good friend that i worked with recently named Cheryl. We went to high school together and she was two years younger. We worked together and talked every day for 3 years. We took walks together at lunch. She was so sweet and a very positive person. She talked about her high school kids with pride.
She left out company about 9 months ago to supposedly take care of her elderly parents and in laws. She lived in a nice house in a nice neighborhood. In late March we found out she died unexpectedly. I was shocked and saddened. She was 49. Her wake was not til 3 weeks later which I thought to be odd. Her service was last Saturday. I was planning to go but woke up in awful pain. I since found out from a mutual friend that she had taken her own life. I was really floored. She was by all knowledge healthy and happy. I have never lost someone my own age.
Im not trying to play the how or why game but it is just so out of character. I pray for her husband and kids and rest her soul. How do you make sense of such things? I miss you Cheryl.
Martin
I wanted to just ponder and vent about a recent event in my life. I had a very good friend that i worked with recently named Cheryl. We went to high school together and she was two years younger. We worked together and talked every day for 3 years. We took walks together at lunch. She was so sweet and a very positive person. She talked about her high school kids with pride.
She left out company about 9 months ago to supposedly take care of her elderly parents and in laws. She lived in a nice house in a nice neighborhood. In late March we found out she died unexpectedly. I was shocked and saddened. She was 49. Her wake was not til 3 weeks later which I thought to be odd. Her service was last Saturday. I was planning to go but woke up in awful pain. I since found out from a mutual friend that she had taken her own life. I was really floored. She was by all knowledge healthy and happy. I have never lost someone my own age.
Im not trying to play the how or why game but it is just so out of character. I pray for her husband and kids and rest her soul. How do you make sense of such things? I miss you Cheryl.
Martin
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend Cheryl. May she Rest in peace. I pray for her husband and children who were left wondering why or if there were something they could have done. They didn't know she had severe depression and neither did you Martin. Some people who have chronic pain aren't strong enough to deal with it sometimes. Living with it is not easy sometimes as you know. She must have been suffering quietly if she appeared happy to you. They can hide it pretty well. I know I appear happy and smiling all the time, but I'm in pain all the time, and although I will commit suicide because I'm a strong woman, I can understand why Cheryl did.
I'm sorry for your loss Martin, and very sorry for her family she left wondering why.
Love and hugs,
Xoxoxo
Mary Ellen
We all have our own grievances to bear. All the more reason to work on them and learn to let life strengthen and not take away. I've fought for this for those that I've lost, not always an easy thing to do.
Prayers for her family and all affected by this loss, including you.
Gentle hugs.
Keep the good memories in your heart.
Peace
It is so hard to understand. I wont try. I was shocked when i heard she passed away. Then why. I ll be honest my first thought was why cant I do that. Does this give me free license? After a day or two I realized how stupid i was thinking and that really I should fight on for Cheryl and her family. Make a plea for survivors of suicide. I think Toni reflected that as well. Damn shes riight alot, pressing on. Thank you all so much for your support, without they put me in cuckoo houuse!
Martin
Suicide leaves those left with a different grief than other death.
.. knowing how hard it is for those left, has gotten me through times I was just truly exhausted with the struggle with illness/pain.
..I understand your first thought.. and am glad you were able to see past that to the horrible grief it leaves.
Hugs
jc
( this is not a condemnation of those who just couldn't bear any more pain/illness..
I understand that all to well)