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I started reading a great book which I got in 2009. I always wanted to read it, but didn't take time to do it. It's called: Codependent No More.
The author who is Melody Beattie asks me: How do you feel about changing yourself? What do you think would happen if you begin to change? Do you think you can change? Why or why not? Write several paragraphs answering these questions.
I think changing is necessary and I feel optimistic to know there is a simpler way to live than I used to see it. I feel hopeful; this is my feeling about changing.
Also I have to say it is a new world, often we are afraid of changes, but this time I am not, just the opposite, I feel hopeful and pretty sure the outcome will be better than not trying it.
I think if I begin to change I will be happier than now. This change has to do with looking in the mirror and not see a victim through the glass, through my feelings and emotions; it has to do with stopping blaming others for my anger and unhappiness, and accepting that I am good enough to live in this world in which we have the joy to live. It has to do with setting boundaries, communication, self-worth, controlling, denial and many others things.
Any person, who wants to change, can do it, even me. It doesn’t matter how we learned to be codependents, who or what taught us those lessons; we are here on our way to learn and unlearn and be responsible for ourselves. We are part of the nature, and as nature changes in seasons, we can also do it.
What about you?
The author who is Melody Beattie asks me: How do you feel about changing yourself? What do you think would happen if you begin to change? Do you think you can change? Why or why not? Write several paragraphs answering these questions.
I think changing is necessary and I feel optimistic to know there is a simpler way to live than I used to see it. I feel hopeful; this is my feeling about changing.
Also I have to say it is a new world, often we are afraid of changes, but this time I am not, just the opposite, I feel hopeful and pretty sure the outcome will be better than not trying it.
I think if I begin to change I will be happier than now. This change has to do with looking in the mirror and not see a victim through the glass, through my feelings and emotions; it has to do with stopping blaming others for my anger and unhappiness, and accepting that I am good enough to live in this world in which we have the joy to live. It has to do with setting boundaries, communication, self-worth, controlling, denial and many others things.
Any person, who wants to change, can do it, even me. It doesn’t matter how we learned to be codependents, who or what taught us those lessons; we are here on our way to learn and unlearn and be responsible for ourselves. We are part of the nature, and as nature changes in seasons, we can also do it.
What about you?
i wish you the very best on this journey of change and discovery.
Yes, it is definitely right...Some of us are afraid to change. We would rather hold on to fear and insecurities than to look at ourselves full front AND back. So we adapt to live in painful situations that work against us throughout our lives. We didn't come with a guide to life. That's because it is in the discovery of ourselves that we find security and Love. We must find it in ourselves first before we can give it to others...
Who am I? Why and how did I get into this situation? What would really make me happy? What attributes have I nurtured to make me a better friend to others? etc., etc., etc. Free introspection on a daily basis helps matters greatly. At least that's how I keep myself learning :)
Freedom and Success to Everyone.
I've heard of this book, sure it was from someone on DS. In fact I think our Serenity was putting quotes from it up for awhile.
I made that change years ago! I grew up in a not so encouraging household and as I went into the world on my own, one day I decided I had the choice to be who they said I was or who I wanted to be. I chose to be who I wanted to be!
I've had many challenges to face and keeping a positive outlook can be one of them, but overall with it it helps me battle those challenges. I also allow myself those down days and see the importance in them, there is a balance to it, but not take it too far.
Great topic! This room struggles with Chronic pain/illnesses and always needs that positive reinforcement thank you :)
I am hippy. I have degenerative disc disease along with a few other health issues. A grandmother to 4.
I own the book you mentioned Maugaritia but haven't read it. I will . I have it for a reason. Grew up in a dysfunctional home and was married to an alcoholic. I know there is more than just surviving that.
So I am going to read the book. I believe we can walk away from these things and still have much to learn about ourselves.
Looking forward to seeing you around.
hippy
i think so many of us have gone through that esp after having to deal with CP/CI (not to discount your experience at all) and we have or still are pulling ourselves ourselves out and looking/moving forward. it's a brave decision, move and continual process.
I was married for a year, after that I realized I am codependent... and during these years I have been doing my best to recovery from it. I think I am doing well and every day I feel better about myself and have a happier life.
I really appreciate your words and admire your experiences...Happy face for all of you :)
Hippy.. go there and read the book... I am pretty sure you will enjoy a lot.
Serenety, thanks a lot for your wonderful wishes. I felt you gave me a hug.
Begogonia, "we adapt to live in painful situations that work against us throughout our lives", is it not crazy we do that?.. it is, but as you say free introspection, learning, can help us. Thanks.
Irocket... "There is a balance".. I love remind that. kisses.
Warm hugs :-)
Gentle hugs