Hard to find a support group for the ones who did the cheating..... If you are sorry for your mistakes, want to be a better partner/person and can't find anyone to accept your apologies, we will here!
So I was in a relationship with a wonderful man for over 4 years. I have a pretty vicious fear of commitment from a toxic 12-year marriage prior. As we started moving closer toward marriage (talks/plans/etc.), I let my fear get the best of me and cheated with a guy I knew at the gym. I had sex with him 3 times before the guilt buried me and I ended the relationship but never told him. I told him I wasn’t able to marry him and he deserved to find someone who would. Now, four months later, I am in therapy (a couple months in), meditating and have become an active Christian to somehow rebuild my feeling of integrity… And the man I left has now returned to my life wanting to “start over.” My question is- if I want to try to rebuild this, do I tell him? Or can there be redemption in the work I’m doing to prevent its reoccurrence?