My abuser never spoke to me that way, so I can only imagine how painful it must be. I'm so sorry for the heartache you're feeling for your dogs. My hope for you is that you will continue growing stronger and will one day be able to get your dogs back. Until then, continue focusing on taking care of yourself... practicing good self care to be able to grow stronger.

I wish I had known a couple years ago how important self care is in regaining one's strength.... in every way. Eating healthy, taking walks in the woods to get good exercise, praying & meditating.... all the ways to show ourselves kindness with good self care. Even taking relaxing baths with fragrant bath oils and having good hygiene is part of self care. All these things help us heal.

So be kind to yourself... focus on you and your healing and getting back on your feet. Best of luck to you.

I'm with Spirit. Keep getting stronger.

narcissists are very verbally abusive. anything to beat you down into submission. something to think about is not every narcissist is a sociopath , but every sociopath is a narcissist. no way around it. both take pleasure in destroying your self image and will stop at nothing to do so. what you must understand is they get off on putting you down and enjoy watching you crumble into a submissive little nothing. they work very hard at stripping your identity and when they feel they have done that successfully they will discard you like yesterdays trash. it was planned out to do to you from the very moment they met you. so why give them what they want? you want to get back at him? be the strongest women you can possibly be. there is nothing that drives them more crazy than someone who stands up for them self and doesnt take there shit. i dont care if you cry your eyes out when your alone ( i mean "i" do care ) but they do not. its exactly what they set out to do to you. dont give them that satisfaction. take back your life and become a strong and calm and happy. they look at us like and they see weakness and they despise us. if you only knew you were feeding right into there hand by being emotionally broken. dont let him ever see you break. show him he doesnt really know how strong you are. that is how you can get revenge and drive him to the edge. dont give him any more power than he has already taken from you. fight back by getting well and making a good life for yourself. you can do it.

Very true, bella. Since I've been regaining my strength and finding the old me ( the old me from before I married my abuser), I can tell a huge difference in my abuser. It totally pisses him off that I'm getting so much stronger and finding an even better identity than before.

Pendra, the best revenge you can give your ex is rebuilding your life and regaining your inner self. Never show him when you're feeling down or depressed. These monsters love it when they know they're having that effect on their victims. They feed on that knowledge that they have that kind of power over you. Keep your focus on YOU and getting well. When he sees you all strong again and independent of him, he will be furious that his plan to destroy you did not work. You can do this! One day at a time. It can be a tough journey, but it will be SO worth it! :)

It is amazing how these individuals love to be superior to their victims but don't have any mastery of the English language. It is like that up here wwith many French Nationalists. They have no mastery of the French language which is their mother tongue. Yet I who has French as a second language speak it better than them where mastery is concerned. He is not all that smart that antisocial EX of yours. I must admit that I flinched upon hearing his vulgarness. But than he is an antisocial personality disorderred person who feels that he does not have to conform to rules of conduct of any kind. I'm so sorry you had to be subjected to his evil tyrade. He is evil incorporated. The kee is that just because they say whatever doesn't make what they say true. I remember asking for my membership to an organisation to be terminated. He, in administration wanted to know why. I mentionned it was due to me having to denounce the general director because of his lack of empathy of aan act of sexual abuse committed against a recipient of services their by his than employee. This administration guy said that I denounced the director general because of my lack of maturity to get myself better after being sexually abused myself. I simply told him that we both live in a Democratic society and he has the right to his opinion, as well as to have the right to be wrong. Geuss what. He had no comeback, he took my name off of the membership list and I was on my way and living peacefully. And he continued to lead the men's group meant to make the guys better as men. DUHHHH!
The same goes for that disgusting piece of masculinity who is now your EX. abuser. And I know enough about him to not be afraid to describe him in such a way. But be kind to yourself. His callous words do not make any changes to the person you were before he utterred his vulgarity. You are as good now as you were before his condemnation of you, which only shows me his lack of control over the English language. There is nothing in what he says to take seriously however. It is all intimidation, which may be illegal where you live. Keep on going and don't sweat him. He is not worth the bother. :)

I can totally empathise with you, mine was very verbally abusive, I took the brunt of his rage and was called all the horrible words you can think of I was also shocked at how totally abusive and nasty it was. And he STILL came out of this looking like the victim with other people's support and sympathy, I was painted at the evil nasty person because I'd taken his daughter away (from a bad situation) and that's what people saw.

I think if you can go no contact then you will find some peace, any form of communication with them will end in abuse. Covert or overt. Please know that it's not you it's him, he's totally sick.