SURVIVORS OF SOCIOPATHS Community Group
A group where we support one another and share our experiences with each other about narcissistic relationships. a place to heal if you have been "touched" by a sociopath. there is hope. share your experience strength and hope here with others who have been where you are. together we help each other heal...
I left a sociopath four years ago. It has been almost a year now since there has been any attempt by him to contact me. I think it’s finally done. The magnetic door look at my place of employment was finally disabled a couple months ago. (It was put in place by my employer when they became aware of the violent nature of my former boyfriend) I hated it it was a constant trigger for me.
Funny that the physical abuse, emotional and verbal abuse didn’t persuade me to dump him much sooner! It was only after he pursued a young lady right in front of me who was the same age as his son. They went ahead and cheated and that was the last straw I dumped him and then he stalked me. He went to jail three times for violating protection orders. All electronic of course so no way to prove it so all the charges got dropped by the da. Regretfully I did not report the physical abuse. He continues this behavior with his current girlfriend. I’ve seen it in her face.
my biggest regret after not leaving when I should have is that I did not report the physical abuse. Maybe I could’ve helped someone else avoid his wrath.
The fact that these monsters and abuse are so commonplace is what scares me. They move right on and replace you, thinking all women are replaceable and the same, then continue the abuse with the next one and she too stupidly endures because she thinks it's a fair trade off for how "wonderful" he is. They know how to play up the fairy tale bullshit we are taught as a child then tell us we weren't taught about the sex abuse part that goes with it, that it's normal, and we are lucky to have them. It's so fucked up but we all believe it because we are empty souls who have no normal history to reference. Speaking out about narcissists and sociopaths really doesn't help other people that much because they won't believe it. They have to live it for themselves. Just stay strong, work on healing, and continue no contact.
He made a suicide attempt recently that I heard about through the grapevine. I think he’s sold his soul or something. He is truly charmed.
Anyway. I’ve blocked all means of communication that I can think of. I figured out how to block his email so that won’t happen again. I pity his girlfriend. I hope she wakes up soon and realizes she doesn’t have to endure his wrath. But she’s been with him since soon after I dumped him so that’s not too promising.