SURVIVORS OF SOCIOPATHS Community Group
A group where we support one another and share our experiences with each other about narcissistic relationships. a place to heal if you have been "touched" by a sociopath. there is hope. share your experience strength and hope here with others who have been where you are. together we help each other heal...
Of course the overall effect of being involved with a Sociopath was his projection onto me. At the end I was regarded as the fucked up unstable damaged person whilst he presented a charismatic and charming face to the world, well dressed, normal and at all costs made sure there was no crack in his mask. Instead he presented me as this dangerous, unstable person he was involved in who was screwing up his life and who he needed to leave but could not because for some reason he felt too bad to, and also went to the extent of claiming rights and ownership on all my belongings, including my dogs, none of which were his. he even got his new girlfriend to help him concoct a plan to have me institutionalised because i was dangerous to him, and they made a plan to get a social worker and lawyer involved and considered how they would brainwash them to believe i had to be removed from society and especially from him because he was at danger with me. I became the bad guy and the fucked up person, and he presented himself as perfectly ok, but would beat me and verbally abuse me behind closed doors and inform his new girlfriend how screwed up i was and it was just a matter of time before he would leave but she should be patient because he had to get a few matters sorted. i became the abuser and he informed everyone i was abusing him, rather than the other way around, no matter his extreme strength. it was horrifying
But you know the truth, and hang onto that. The truth is your ex is a narcissistic sociopathic evil creature. One who enjoys causing pain. The best thing to ever happen to you was to get away from him. Now you can focus on YOU. Focus on healing and loving yourself. Try not to give him anymore of your energy. Which I know is easier said than done at this time. But he doesn't deserve an ounce of your energy or thoughts.
You've gone through a horrible traumatic experience, and it takes time to recover. Now that you're away from him, you'll be able to begin that recovery, that journey in healing. Please know you aren't alone. We're here for you. Love and light to you, pendra.
# 1 any man who touches a women physically in a violent way is nothing but a piece of shit. garbage, a waste of a human. period. not your fault .
#2 blaming you is what they all do. its always going to be your fault they will never see it any other way especially admit that it could be something wrong with them.
#3 you never ever deserved this kind of treatment no matter what you did or how you responded. there is nothing you could do to deserve to be hit. absolutely nothing.
you have experienced a horrible tramatic 13 years that takes its toll on anyone. you can now recover and become a survivor. you are no longer his victim. now its time to learn so this never happens to you again. you can do this. we are truly here for you.
unfortunately i remain in contact with him as he has my beloved dogs whilst I try to pick up the pieces of my life, after just surviving 10 months of chemo from cancer and newly in remission but with the hammer of cancer sitting over my head for the rest of my life too. And what is so horrifying is that now his treatment of me is worse than it ever was, more controlling, more manipulating, more abusive - because now he has ended things with me and discarded me and his climate with me has almost turned to hatred so he has utter disdain or me and dismisses me entirely, decides when he will allow me to see my dogs, uses them as a control weapon over me, is unbelievably hectic - says you will listen to me you fuck and what I decide about the dogs (which I own and adore) or I will put the phone down and never answer it again and you will never see them again. This is just horrific.