I am so down and feeling so hopeless. My spouse has had on again, off again depression throughout the years. We've been together for 18 years and married for 4. We've always been able to work through it and come out on the other side - better for each other. She recently told me that she "wanted to try something else". That has since evolved into "i may not want to be married anymore".

This is a new level to her depression for us. She started a new business with a partner she adores but who is not a regimented, stand-up kinda guy. He forgets meetings, doesn't seem particularly engaged and these are all problematic. They recently decided to give up their office space and work from home. I noticed the downward spiral within a month of her working from home. Alone. Not good for her. She enjoys networking and interacting and collaborating with co-workers and she's lost 95% of that.

She'd had a lot of time to build negative narratives about herself. Thankfully she started seeing a therapist but she's not getting better (in fact, she's been seeing the therapist for 2 months but hasn't mentioned her wanted to end the marriage - strange). She talks about not wanting accountability to anyone and wanting to take risks. At this point I'm worried about doing something to herself. Something she attempted 20 years ago.

I'm feeling sad for being on the brink of losing my marriage and the wife who has loved me so unconditionally for 18 years. I am also feeling scared to leave her side because of the poor decisions she may make. I'm so torn and don't know what to do.