I just saw this article about how in the UK they are starting to acknowledge that there are many male victims of domestic violence and rape. Not only that, they are starting to fund resources for male victims. Hopefully this will turn out well and lead to increased awareness of male victims and their need for support.
In Pennsylvania, there's financial assistance for victims of any crime. When my son's bike was stolen, it was offered to him and he had to sign a paper acknowledging that he'd received the pamphlet. For obvious reasons, it wasn't needed. This wasn't money to replace the bike, but money for therapy, funeral services, cleanup services, etc.
Here's a link to another article about it. The amount of money going towards funding this is pretty small, but it's better than nothing.
Certainly more uplifting than the other articles I read today. According to the other article I read the CDC specifically refuses to fund any research into domestic violence where the victim is male (but they're fine with funding the research if it's about female victims).
Here's a link to the article I mentioned. Don't let the title fool you, the article turned out to be surprisingly unbiased.
Here's a quote of the section I mentioned (turns out it was the Department of Justice I was thinking of and not the CDC):
"There has been little research on responses to male victims of intimate partner violence, in part because agencies refuse to fund such research. For example, the U.S. Department of Justice solicitation of proposals for Justice Responses to Intimate Partner Violence and Stalking (p. 8) stated "What will not be funded: 4. Proposals for research on intimate partner violence against, or stalking of, males of any age or females under the age of 12." In the few studies done, many men report that hotline workers say they only help women, imply or state the men must be the instigators, ridicule them or refer them to batterers' programs. Police often will fail to respond, ridicule the man or arrest him. (Cook 2009)(Douglas and Hines, 2011)"
Stalking behavior is pretty well understood, although it may not be reflected in the literature, because celebrities get stalked and that's where much of the money comes from.
The professional advice is pretty clear. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't cancel cell phones, don't change numbers, don't respond back to harassment in any way. It generally takes 6-8 weeks of NO response whatsoever (even canceling a cell phone is a response) to get stalking to stop. BUT the long it goes on, the longer it takes to stop.
Here's a link to another article about it. The amount of money going towards funding this is pretty small, but it's better than nothing.
Certainly more uplifting than the other articles I read today. According to the other article I read the CDC specifically refuses to fund any research into domestic violence where the victim is male (but they're fine with funding the research if it's about female victims).
Here's a link to the article I mentioned. Don't let the title fool you, the article turned out to be surprisingly unbiased.
Here's a quote of the section I mentioned (turns out it was the Department of Justice I was thinking of and not the CDC):
"There has been little research on responses to male victims of intimate partner violence, in part because agencies refuse to fund such research. For example, the U.S. Department of Justice solicitation of proposals for Justice Responses to Intimate Partner Violence and Stalking (p. 8) stated "What will not be funded: 4. Proposals for research on intimate partner violence against, or stalking of, males of any age or females under the age of 12." In the few studies done, many men report that hotline workers say they only help women, imply or state the men must be the instigators, ridicule them or refer them to batterers' programs. Police often will fail to respond, ridicule the man or arrest him. (Cook 2009)(Douglas and Hines, 2011)"
The professional advice is pretty clear. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't cancel cell phones, don't change numbers, don't respond back to harassment in any way. It generally takes 6-8 weeks of NO response whatsoever (even canceling a cell phone is a response) to get stalking to stop. BUT the long it goes on, the longer it takes to stop.
Look up the book Gift of Fear by Galvin DeBecker.
http://gavindebecker.com/main/