I have the same feeling as you do one new profiles that are private as I would think new people would want to make friends and be sort of a open book so people could get to know them.

I am sorry about the shoulder as I know you are probably going to be so busy with the holidays as everyone wants to look nice and that is usually when I go and get the extra needed attention at the salon with coloring and such. Not to mention I be the holidays are probably the best time of year with the tips and who wants to give up that. Is there any thing like some kind of brace that you can use till after the holidays to ease the pain while you are working. You know how they have those braces that people put on their wrist I wonder if they have something that you could use.

You're right about the extra money at holiday time. It's going to be really rough without an income for the time it takes to recover so I need to bring in the bucks when I can. I have so many other pain isues that will still be there after the shoulder is fixed that I wonder why I'm even going to bother.

Even if there was a brace to immobilize the shoulder, I couldn't wear it and still work. I have to keep moving it as if it were fine in order to do hair. I have Fibro and OA...each makes the other worse. My fingers are getting crippled and my knees are bad, my whole spine is hurting and my hips, legs and feet are involved, too.

I guess this is why I'm finding myself less than patient on the CP board, right now. My mood sucks...

I saw one that I let go as it looked suspicious, so it isn't just you....
God gives us that "sense" not to be judgemental but for our protection and I usually err on the side of caution.

So I am with you on that.

Pain wears us down and I have been irratible too. And I can't spell any more ever other word has a red line under it so why wont it just fix the spelling...... now I am irritable with that.

Paulina sometimes I spell a word so bad spell check doesnt even have a suggestion for me. LOL


One thing that sometimes drives me batty with new members is they join and ask for support or has questions and they never come back to reply and all these people post and it is all wasted thoughts, I do hope that maybe it helps someone else who has the same thing tho. Plus alot of times I am nosy and want to know if they figured it out or went to the doctor and got a DX.

I saw a suspicious one sort of well it made me sort of mad as It might give someone who is desperate an idea that can hurt them in the long run and I wish I had a delete option for those.

Oh Cherry...I am so sad you are feeling so hurt and so down. i think this time of year brings out the irritability in people,but we need to help each other get through the real tough times. know that you have many friends here who are here to help you get through the tough times. I woke up early, was gonna have coffee with you...but the chat wasn't working, AGAIN.

I get very depressed and hurt more this time of year. I used to go all out for Christmas, but I cannot even remember the last time my kids came to see me for the holidays. It really hurts me and yes, depresses me ALOT.
So know it is okay to get irritated, I know the post you are talking about and the red flags and whistles went off when I read it also.

The people with the "private profiles" drive me crazy. If you are here to find help and friends, why is your profile private. Then you don't want to send them a message, because they won't accept hugs or msgs.

Keep your chin up, my dearest friend, and we will help each other out during these crappy times. Know that I am here for you,always sis.

Love and big gentle hugs,
MaryKathryn xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Manny, LOL.... glad it is not just me. I need to find out how to get spell check on mine.

Cherry,

I'll say it again - I'm amazed that you hold down a job that's as physical as yours is. Hats off to you, sweetie. I hope that you're able to make it through the holidays without increased pain.

I want to explain how my profile came to be private. When I first joined DS, I openly stated where I was from, posted a photo, and of course, use my name Tink. I made a new friend and we communicated back and forth until he crossed the line. He threatened me and said he was going to come "get me." I was afraid that he might have enough info to do just that. I contacted DS and switched my profile to private. In the process, I got locked out of being able to make edits to my profile. I recently tried to go public again, with the new knowledge that I have to be discrete, but I can't make the changes. I haven't bothered to write to DS because they're not always so reponsive, if you know what I mean. Anyway, I offer my explanation in case anyone's been avoiding me because I'm listed as "private." I'm really a friendly person. :)

Oh, sweet Cherry! I think irritation just comes with CP. We keep it in check most of the time, but we are human and sometimes it leaks out. You are among friends who get it and love you! Hang in there!

As to private profiles....I have found that it tends to be longer members who have their profile private. And I have no idea what you are referring to, of course with the screwed up way my brain works these days the person could walk up and slap me in the face and I would still not get it...LOL!

Having come from other boards, I can tell you that trouble makers show up everywhere......that's true in life too. I just try to think how pathetic their life has to be for them to be spending so much energy on little ole me.........some people are drama queens! Just ignore, ignore, ignore.........if you don't set the food out, they won't come around...LOL!

I will say from a newbie standpoint and coming from other boards, that it is often daunting when trying to enter a new community where the others have a long history. On some it can seem like a private club for the special few and others are made to feel as if they are tresspassing on private property and some even work as a group to run people off, nevermind that this site is for everyone and not a private club.

I was lucky to get to know some of you before coming to the CP board and I have not felt that way there. I do have to say that it has been the most welcoming board I have come across.......except for this little group...which is just AWESOME!

Hope something in there helps.....I have been racking my brain and I can't figure it out.......like that's unusual...not.....LOL! Now am just rambling.....saying hugs now....

Hugs!......Tonna

I think we all feel this at some time or another Cherry...I know it drives me crazy when people do some things too.

I know for me, I keep my profile private because, for a long time, there were a few people on the main board that were very untrustworthy and, willing to do anything to feel vindicated. I wan't to be able to share my photos, thoughts and profile information with people who I don't think will abuse my sharing.

However, I have met some of the most wonderful people online as well. Before you came, I went through a very difficult time. I was shocked and amazed by the incredible kindness, consideration and generosity of many people....some of whom I had no previous relationship with. It is a one way highway online my friend---most people are driving the same direction and, not every one drives like you do....however; there are those people who insist on driving the opposite way on occassion.

HUGs and support to you my friend.

Tink, you are really friendly.. :-)

solace....I love your new avi!!

brandi hugs!

I've had a private profile since joining. My hubby is super touchy about putting out private info plus, I journaled a lot, some very personal stuff, and only shared w/ people I "knew". Have only turned down a friend request a couple of times since I've been in any of my Groups. I always check before I "accept" a new friend to make sure they belong to one of my Groups. Had a couple guys make numerous friend request and they seemed pretty questionable!! Maybe I'm just paranoid. LOL

I get so cranky sometimes Cherry. They pain does that. I don't know how you keep going w/ work but you have my "Hero" award :>}

Cherry I'm sorry you hurt so much. I know things have been really rough for you and yes you will need recovery time after surgery. Somehow someway this will work out for you. You have many reasons to be irritated and frustrated, etc....but these new people are not a threat to you. So what if these new people turn out to be troublemakers? Offer them a welcome and support, you will know you did the right thing.
All along there have been posts in the CP room that have irked me and I just leave them alone. I'm not going to let them get to me when I have people way more important to me to worry about.
As far as private profiles goes alot of people have different reasons for them. They belong to several groups, they have trust issues, they can't maintain more friends, etc....

Hang in there my friend. You're almost there.

Many blessings and hugs,
Toni

Tink I think you can change your profile yourself just go under edit profile I think it is the last line under hugs and messages or is it the first not sure but you can change private just for DS or friends or what ever you want and go back and forth if there is a problem and you only want to change it for a week or so.

Paulina I know with my computer if a word is spelled wrong a red line is under it and I just arrow over it and right click it and a list of possible words come up for you to choice.

Oops sorry tink it is my account which is the last one

I totally agree.with everyone. In some ways I'm ashamed of my feels but there so strong I can't be wrong all the time.LOL.
Best of Luck with your surgery.
Gentle Healing Hugs.