Suicide Community Group
Just what the name says. Anything to do with suicide. I want this to be a place where people can discuss their issues about suicide, whether they or someone they know has tried it, are thinking about trying it, or just want to discuss it. I want this to be a place where people can voice their issues, and receive positive feedback and help. Remember: Suicide is a permanent...
My wife was happy and well-functioning for 66 years. Pretty, nice, social adept, we decided to move after the children left to a more active area near the beach. The market turned out to be much harder and pressurized, and we had difficulty. Ultimately she could not decide on a house and we lost it. Her depression and anxiety worsened, she had hallucination and is taking various anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medicines which seem to be relatively little.
She now says she should have taken the house, rejected subsequent ones, says she has various medical problems, feet, eyes, smell, and says she ruined everything. Family members suspected a stroke or Alzheimer given the dramatic change in behavior, but there was no damage to any function, memory is fine, and a brain MRI showed little.
I finally bought a new house with her reluctant consent and now she says she doesn't like it, but also is unhappy at the friend's home where we are now living. I've tried to be enthusiastic telling her that everyone can make mistake, decisions were joint, the market changed, and that she can have a nice life if she exercises, takes medicine, and has a positive attitude but she just continues to blame herself. A hospitalization accomplished little. She eats ice cream and wants to go on rides, and go to sleep just saying she ruined eveything. What do I/we do?
I used to eat too much ice cream and other sweets to feel better. The problem was that too much ice cream and sweets was making me feel sluggish and bloated and nauseous. Eating too much of it was making my stomach hurt. I started to drink tea lately, sometimes with or without a tablespoon of sugar. It calms me down a little bit. You could offer her tea if you think it would help make her feel better. Also, you could try to take her to a doctor again if she still says she has medical problems. That's all I could think of. From what I've read, you've been sticking by your wife throughout those bad times. That's noble of you to do that. I hope things get better for both of you.