Feeling SICK of this roller coaster. We just got back from a few days of backpacking...at a national park, where there are no prostitutes or online porn or sex club consent forms to find. It was beautiful...he was wonderful...and it's easy at those times to think everything is in the past. But now we're back and he stayed out last night till 4:00 am. Saying he was working on a portfolio for a job interview. Well, he showed me his finished portfolio as evidence, and he got the job. Yea. The new job will be good for both of us. How do I confront him over a portfolio and new job? Now he's back out tonight and with summer over, school starting and soccer practice and blah blah blah it is going to be much harder for me to get to s-anon. I know I can make it happen if I reach out and try harder...but it's not easy... just feeling defeated tonight...
Em: You said, "I know I can make it happen." The magic words....I can. Keep moving in the direction that YOU want to go. Dealing with this problem is a difficult path. Do things for YOU. As long as you're working toward your goal, you're doing the right thing. You can't do his end...but you can do yours. If you have questions....ask him.
You'll be okay no matter what happens...but it really helps to seek help and have some support along the way. Hugs! Glad you had a wonderful time.
Thanks SheenRe for the encouraging words...and listening to my vent. You're right, I know I'll be okay. We talked today about the 4:00 am thing and i feel a little better... getting back on track towards being open with what I'm feeling...
I'm struggling with these same things... the roller coaster, the worrying, the crazies...
I'm just trying to detach and focus on me... at the same time, I try to tell him when things are bothering - just to put it out there. I try not to blame or accuse... just let him know how certain things make me feel/set off triggers. It doesn't always go over well, but it makes me feel better.
REALLY working on detaching right now & working on me though.... again. :)
You'll be okay no matter what happens...but it really helps to seek help and have some support along the way. Hugs! Glad you had a wonderful time.
Make that time for yourself and S-anon, your worth it too. Glad you are feeling a little bit better today :)
I'm just trying to detach and focus on me... at the same time, I try to tell him when things are bothering - just to put it out there. I try not to blame or accuse... just let him know how certain things make me feel/set off triggers. It doesn't always go over well, but it makes me feel better.
REALLY working on detaching right now & working on me though.... again. :)