so, my husbands SA turned into SO almost 4 years ago. 5 years ago he was arrested with an underage prositute, along with porn, underage porn, sex toys, cialis, condoms, camera and video player for the porn. For the 1st year I was told NOT to tell anyone. Then conciction came- 10 years probationn and all that comes with being a sex offender. My son and I have been devastated. At first I did all the things a supported wife should do. Then I found out all his dirty little secrets and it has been hell since then. I questioned myself; what did I do wrong? How could I not see this? He was veiwing porn in my home...he took it to motel rooms, and then to hookers in those rooms. He has dropped out of couples therapy twice. Sure, he has apologized but wih no real feelings behind it. He does nothing to help us. Talking about sports is not "trying". I miss what I thought we had. I am sad and lonely. He is not the same man to me. I will always doubt him and his word. I think he is a manipulator. I probably need to move on, but I went from daddy to hubby and have been married for 36 years. I am scared to death to be on my own.I am still being guided by a therapist. My son and I barely speak to him. He will not move out; says this is his house, too. Says by stayting in it he is working on things...really???? How??? Any thoughts???