hope people are still using this site. last post i see was august. anyway my husband and i have been married for 33 years. six years ago i made the discovery of craigs list, back door and other sites. round and round we went for 6 years. i,m sure it was happening before that tho. we retired and moved and built a retirement home on the southern coast all the while discovering, denying, digging our selves in deeper. even got a puppy during covid! he,d say " i only look" and i,d say " but i,m not finding porn, i,m finding hook up and sex workers"! our marriage was so solid and great for over 25 years. we were in a rural area so did everything together. no kids , no family around. no real friends. so now i have come to the realization that he is a sex addict. he is the one with the retirement,so if we split up we will not be living as we do now and actually that is ok with me. i have no family around and am scared to be completely alone. still in the stage of trying not to dwell on it 24/7. going to therapy and getting it through my head that it has nothing to do with me. it certainly does,nt feel that way. after 35 years of being with someone you thought was your best friend its just so hard to pull away.