I think for each one of us there are triggers that set off our feelings and push us back a bit. It is hard to know why particular ones bother some people and not others. Maybe he didn't compliment you before you found out about his addiction? Maybe you think about what he finds attractive and it hurts you thinking he found it attractive in someone else? There could be a lot of different reasons. I usually try to acknowledge the feeling and then let it go (sometimes it is easier than other times). It is helpful to figure out what works best to allow you to let it go.

I think it has to do with thinking he found it attractive in someone else. Like I think "who did he see it on" or "what website did he see that on" idk. We've worked on a lot of things , this one just seems to still bother me.

for me it has to do with his constant need for more and different sexual contact. Whatever we happen to be doing sexually is never enough, just a prelude to "why can't you do this or try that." And I believe that is part of the addiction and it has characterized our entire marriage, even before I found out

for me it was like feeling like an object instead of a person. i'm divorced now. when he started abusing steroids and other drugs, i couldn't take it anymore.