I have been married to my husband for 21 years during which time our sex life has been very difficult. My spouse claimed he was bi-sexual and started seeking out men to screw right away. I put up with this. I don’t know why. Now he has moved on anyone who will have sex with him. Even trans-gender people. He has had many affairs but denies it saying they are just friends. To makes things worse he verbally abuses me about my sexuality. Cutting me down and insulting me almost everyday. He is an dependent alcoholic as well. Well today I was told that sex with me is like screwing a dead corpse. I was shocked and very hurt. I had always cherished the few times we had sex and thought of it as something special. But to hear that was so incredibly cruel that it has completely changed my view of him. I’m so hurt by what he said. I still cannot believe I actually heard him say it. I used to love him as a person even though I’m not “in love” with him anymore. But now I can’t even stand to look at him.  I’m thinking it may be time to separate from him at this point because I just can’t put up with the abuse anymore. All he even thinks about is sex. He said if he does have sex then he will die.  I’m taking care of my elderly demented mother so it is hard for me to think about divorce at this time.

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