Married to a porn addict for nearly 20 years i left him a year ago.
Now, after much healing, i finally feel comfortalbe enough to admit out loud the reason i ended my marriage to someone that asks.
Theres one question ive been asked multiple times that took me by surprise the first time i heard it: "would you rather he had cheated on you with a real woman"
This question, has been my experience, comes from people who still cant accept that porn addiction is a real thing.
To that question "would you rather" i answer yes. Yes, i much rather he had cheated on me with a real woman i would have found out and immediately left. Therefore i would have suffered a lot less than i did. It took me YEARS to accept the fact that yes, my husband has a porn addiction. Yes thats actually real regarless of anyones opinion. No, hes never going to want to stop. No, i cant continue to believe his short lived promises to stop. No, i cant allow this to continue destroying my self esteem and YES! I CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT HIM. More than that ive recently come to realize... i can do more than just survive. I CAN EXCEL.
I dont know who out there needs to read that, but right now i needed to say it