Is this your group SC? It came up on my e mails.

This is a common problem with husbands. I think it is up to you to say harder or softer. It is not a punishment or a beating and shouldn't be seen as such. It may look like it but it is not. It is erotic for some. I look on it as a glorified massage

My wife is not switched on by it but I am and she has learned what I like. It is never punishment or associated with punishment so it can fit well into normal sex.

If he suffers with ED I would have thought it was the least he could do to fit in with your desires on this. It will help plug the gap and be a way you could enjoy some aspects of a sexual relationship which I think would increase other things you do.

I think it is only a matter of time before perverts get on here so let us enjoy a wholesome discussion on the subject while we can.

No, Tony, this is a group you started i believe back in May. I stumbled upon it and knew that you being the moderator it would be a good group.

He just feels that he is hurting me. He is getting a little more relaxed with it, but i can tell he doesn't totally enjoy it. I love it. It's exhilarating to me, hard to explain exactly why, but it just gets me excited.

I'm glad to hear that you and your wife have such a great sexual relationship.

Best wishes!

I did start this group on the spur of the moment then forgot all about it. Nobody replied except you. Can I actually moderate here?

Anyway briefly as my wife is just making tea. I think it is great that you have this gift as it will open up something you can enjoy. It is up to you to train him as to what you want as did I my wife. She is quiet comfortable with it and is kind of switched on that she is switching me on. It will be a great privelege for him if he could but see it.

There is a negative image on the internet because of all this punishment stuff and discipline. Some of it is unhealthy. Don't let that affect your marriage. More later. Teas is coming.

God bless

Hi back again. Our computer is in the living room and I felt a bit embarrassed if my wife saw this. I am in good faith but she might not understand.

Anyway where was I. (swam my heart tonight out so kind of woozy) I think you ought to take it slowly and show him that it can be healthy between a man and his wife. It's just spanking not domination and all the stuff you see on the web. That is not healthy for a marriage. I find it adds to sex and arouses one more for their spouse in the bedroom, if one is made that way of course. We are all different. I do have hope for you that this could be a key in your marriage. I find that there is something pure about it when it is done in love and one of the keys is that it is only done in love. Cultivate that with him and show him that it is not punishment. Don't ever connect it with punishment as some do. If you keep out those negatives I think it can grow as part of your love life.

Some have been damaged in childhood and have low self esteem and feel they ought to be punished. What I am talking about is nothing to do with that. I am sure you will never go down that road. I know that you are a faithful wife and your intimacy will only be between you and hubby.

I think we might get somewhere here SW if we can keep it above board.

Let me know how you get on from time to time. No rush. If I come up with any inspirations I will jot them down here.

Don't forget to gradually coach him. My wife is the last person I thought would do this as she is very pure and proper and I know she would never do something that wasn't right. But there you go. When I ask she always obliges and boy is it erotic.

God bless

Thinking about this I believe the key is in the husband understanding more and that might take time with some husbands. Maybe they were brought up to believe they should never hurt a woman or to not be a wife beater. If you can get him to see that it is nothing to do with that more of a glorified massage that you get a lot out of. There is a lot of information about it now in that it can be a real part of foreplay for some. We are really faithful to each other and I never watch porn so it is something only between us and never spoken about to anybody else. I do hope you can change his mindset slowly but surely. I believe my wife responded to my request out of love because she respected me even if I had a bit of a kink in that area.