Social Anxiety Community Group

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dime
dime

hey, um. I’m in high school, which I understand is a ruff time for most... I have social anxiety and I get panic attacks, so I’m borderline antisocial. I currently have no friends, and I never really have. In fact, I cant even comprehend the process of making friends. I legitimately don’t know how to makes friends, doesn’t that just sound ridiculous? I’m young, but I have a bit of a past. Nothing too bad. Most of it I don’t even recall, lucky me. Anyhow because of it I have pretty bad trust issues. And I think that’s a major thing that isolates me from the other kids. I don’t trust them, I’m terrified of them, And I’m not even slightly fond of the majority of them. I know what people are capable of, I don’t think the other kids see it like that. Oh well. I don’t plan on spending my high school experience living in fear. Keep your friends close and your enimies closer, but never forget which is which ;D

SimonLi
SimonLi
Hello Dime, I'm SimonLI. I completely understand where you are coming from in all your points. I graduated from high school only 5 years ago and I still struggle with many of the things you are high lighting. I think it is totally naturally to feel how you do. Sometimes, caution is very good, it helps us make rational decisions. If I could offer just one bit of advice, it is important not to let your fear control you. At the end of the day, people are just people. Life is all about learning how to discern who belongs in your life and who doesn't. Easier said than done yes, but after a while, you start to see patterns. And sometimes, just talking to someone can make a world of difference. I hoped what I said helped in some way, shape, or form.
Not_here_today
Not_here_today
Hi, I'm Emily. I'm sorry this is weird for me. I've never done anything like this. I understand where you're both coming from. I've been suffering for around 5 years now and everyone around me thinks I'm a weird kid who need help. I get bullied because of my anxiety and I often get panic attacks in class where I have to be taken to the nurse and miss class. I hate it. Everything about it. I'm always scared and tired and broken. I never know what to say or do and my one friend hates me.
Kikio
Kikio
Hi. What you just described is me in a nutshell. Except I'm not a kid. I'm 43 and been this way all my life. Never had an actual friend. Not even one, ever. Sure I ve called a few people "friends" just to make me seam more "normal". But I never go anywhere with them, do anything, or even talk with them past the most basic of pleasantries. ( Hi, how you doing. Good. See ya) Sad but that's about the extent of it.
Did get married though. Took the first offer I got, from the only person at that point to ever notice I existed. He took full advantage of my inability to socialize or reach out to anyone, including my own family members, kept me in a loveless, very abusive relationship for over 13 yrs.
Only when he turned his violence towards our kids did I leave. I would have remained had he stayed focused on me because I didn't feel I deserved any better and was simply terrified of being alone.
I'm remarried now though to a wonderful Godly man. I'm still now sure how that happened. But he and my two kids remain the only people I talk to.
He's a very social person. So just can't understand why being at parties ect still makes me feel like I'm having a heart attack.
Worst of all.... Social avoidant disorder
(That's what the therapist calls it) is genetic. My youngest acts just like I did/do.
I'm worried he'll live a friendless lonely life just as I have.