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When a friendship is stale-let is go and say bye&g
vader
this is a topic that has happened to me twice in seattle.But at 60 years old,you must realize and I do that friendships do not last forever.Friends have changed in the past 55 years and I am so glad that we have changes.But here is something that noone discusses.What happens if you are long time friends and things get sticky? I mean suppose you like certain things and she doesnt? What do you do? Look at 60 years old,I aint arguing over music and politics anymore.I did this in 1967.But at 60,I am allowed to like what I like..not what she likes and not to have someone try to impose her or his will on you.There are 3 people here in seattle that just have outgrown me and we are in different directions.I cannot always try to explain things to them and they just cannot always tell me that things will get better.A person is allowed to grieve..and what these people do not understand that some people is takes longer.Has anyone noticed that lately if you have certain problems,that some of your friends tend to stay away? What is it? Is it catching? Why is grief so hard for anyone to understand? I cant be always talk about your kids when I do not have any.It makes me feel uncomfortable and I do feel it.But if you like certain things and they have become a bit more important to you..then you are allowed to pursue them.Never give up what you like because he dont like it and if the friendship is getting old and you are having repeated fights and telephone hang-ups it is time to leave.When a friendship like this is getting old no matter how long you have known each other...let it go and say goodbye.Thanks.Vader.
deleted_user
You are so right! I have lost a friend that helped me through my brothers illness and not too long after he died we stopped talking. IT is like I have the plague. I get that people dont want to hear about it all the time but when its all you think about what are you to do? I try to not bring it up but something always puts it in my face. UGH!
vader
Hi.Thanks for replying to me.I cant figure out why she wont talk to me anymore.I am working part time at my xmas job and do you know something?If Oprah Winifrey came down with an illness..this idiot would send her a card..excuse me..what about others who need friendship? I would rather be alone then to talk to her right now.Happy Holidays.
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