The anniversay of franks death is next saturday.He died on 8/1/2004 and I will never forget that phone call.I have been busy all day doing all of my chores.I do all of the landury and dusting on Monday and i had 3 loads today.Frank always did his own laundry and he was good at it.Noone knows the pain in my heart is getting bigger every day.He was a wonderful brother and he went through a lot after I left my home.My mother was getting very,very difficult and it was getting out of control.Noone believed me or Frank about her drinking and when we went for help..we were told to mind our own business.Before he died,Frank told me this that if anything happened to him..to gather and remember all of the happy times.The House,Mom and Dad and the dog.Soon it will be on 11/1/20008 21 years that i lost my father and when people tell me to get over it.then they will never get another phone call from me.This is one of the worst things that you can tell a person to get over something.And I am very very devasted and it will never stop.I did not want to lose the family house..but what could I do? Mother was drinking heavily each day and she would start at 11 0 clock in the morning.Noone help me or Frank and noone believe me.This is one of the reasons why I left my hometown and why I did not go to my high school reunion.Noone knows why some people today come out with stupid statements or say stupid things.but in seattle in the work force now there are a lot of returning people who havent worked in 20 to 30 years.These women are very nice and polite,but thats about it.Some of them here try to be a mother figure to everyone in the office and I cannot see this.These women are a bit naive about money and such.So they really try and they try their best.They do.But if you do not know anything about a situation..do me a favor..please mind your own busiess and remember this saying..The road to hell is paved with good intentions and sometimes people thr no fault of their own make a situation worse.SO when you do return to work,try to talk on a variety of subjects instead of your trips or grandchildren.And please have a sense of humour that would help and always remember--just remember this..because you like something doesnt mind that I have to like it to.Thanks again.Vader.