SIBLING LOSS GROUP Community Group
GROUP FOR LOSS OF SISTERS AND BROTHERS
vader
How does one remember our siblings? What if the sibling has been passed on for several years? Do you continues to mourn? Or do you acknowledge the fact that he/she lived and moved on? I have decided to move on and give Daily Strength my all.If Frank lived..things would have been different.He would have been in a coma like that girl in Florida.He didnt want to live the reminder of his days like this.Frank stated this to me several times.But he also stated that he was always tired and this is a sign of his diabetes.I walk everyday now.I get up at 4 o clock...watch CNN...the Kiro news for seattle and at 6 o clock when it is light..i put on my clothes and leave the house.Brad is usually sleeping.But I have to walk.Seeing Frank in a wheelchair devasted me.I had noone to talk to and my best friend Sandi has become a nut.I mean this literally.First of all..Sandi was brought up with no religionous training.Secondly..she met someone who was.And this is what happened.He convinvced her that she had healing powers and she took that course on healing..now she is always at this center and i have lost my life life.Frank didnot want this friendshop to end..but it has to.Sandi is really changing and I am 3,000 miles away and the reunion is soon..but i aint sure staying with her and Dan!! Frank loved her..now I am glad that he isnt here..cause his heart will be broken.Frank loved baseball.He kept 3 books.He wrote down all of the scored.He knew about The Yankees.And he taught me to do this...Frank saved all of his receipts for 7 months...at the end of 7 months..if the merchandise isnt defective..I threw my receipts out.I also write down all of my appointments 3 times.One months..i forgot my doctors appointment and this cant happen again.I also write down all anniversaries..and birthdays and buy all of my cards at the beginning of the year.I buy my birthday cards on sale and buy all of my holidays at flea markets and sucyh.I also keep a tab on how much I spend.This is near the end of the month and I cant go out to lunch everyday and such.I just go for coffee.Then I buy the paper and I read it and i leave it there.Sometimes i give it away.Frank loved newspapers.So do I..How do i remember Frank now? By watching The Mariners and watching the games...by reading the paper and trying to be interesting..and I try to do an act of kindness every day and even if it means giving a 1.00 to an homeless person and such..This is the way that I honor Frank and I really miss him.Noone can and will replace my brother...not even Brad.Frank was one of a kind and people who have never met or known Frank has missed out on a warm,wonderful person...so lets honor all of the good qualities and try to live the rest of my life and doing what he would have wanted me to do.
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I think about her everyday..many times. I need her and she is not around. Some times...I even think I need to call her and get excited to tell her something. Then it hits me again...she is not here anymore. I hate this shit
vader
I am sorry that I havent replied to you but my computer has been acting funny and so has that clothes washer.Now they are fixed and let me say this to you...I miss Frank everyday and Brad is no prize.I would rather talk to my brother then Brad.He is not an understanding person and I need Frank also..but he is not around and there are no therapy I can go to in seattle that will help me with Franks death.They are all far and they are expensvie so i try to live a little day at a time and think of all of the good times that we had.I hate this shit also.It is shit and i dont have anyone to talk to because all of my friends here left and some had to move back home because of the job crisis here.Vader.
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