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vader 05/15/2009

Does anyone really recover? It will be 5 years since I lost Frank and all i can say is that my life now is a void.It is a complete loneliness that I cant explain and i wish that I could...how does one explain this? Noone can.I am in therapy now and i am trying to help myself and I am really..but I will always miss Frank.Just before he died..I asked Frank what I would do in case something should happen..Frank spoke and said"Vader..in case something does happen...you have to learn to live without me.I want you to remember all of the happy times and to remember mom,dad,the house and our little dog...and then Frank said this..."Noone really dies..I will be asleep and I will be amoung the dolphins and i will be there and I have never died for I will be free."Frank with the dolphins..doesnt that blow a persons mind? to swiw with the dolphins?

deleted_user 08/12/2009

Some things one never gets over, we just learn to live with the loss. At first it seems overwhelming, but becomes bearable as we heal. It has been 13 years since my brother was murdered, and given the right circumstances, I go back to that day. My neighbor's Son accidently killed himself, and I wept as if it were my child. I watched the documentary "Four Little Girls", by Spike Lee and it took me back as well. I can say that the positive in all this is that I'm a lot more sensitive than I ever was in the past

vader 08/14/2009

thanks for your reply.All I can say is that Frank was so right about Brad.I wish he was here and everyday I cry and my pain is on the inside.I cant come out and be straight to the point like they are in Brooklyn....I cant hurt peoples feelings anymore and I look for the day when I become more senstive to peoples feelings that I was ever in the past and I wish that Frank was here to guise me.thanks again.vader.

deleted_user 08/19/2009

Aw I was in the midst of a sobbing heaving loneliness when I read your post...thank you for sharing, it has made me see im not alone in feeling like this!

I miss how my brother loved me, how no matter what i did he was behind me 100 percent. No one will ever give me that unconditional love again. Yes I will meet guys and maybe one day have children, but they will meet the me without my brother and that is an identity lost to itself. If they fall in love with her they fall in love with an empty soul. The sad thing is, I don't even know who I am to be able to put myself back together again. I am an alien living on, while my brother is free from all this pain. I am so so lost. He was half of my identity, without him, I shouldn't exist surely?!

vader 08/26/2009

thanks again for your reply.I am so sorry that I havent gotten back to you,but I have so busy organizating this and that.Brad left me with limited funds just like Frank said that he would.A brothers love for sister is rare.He often become the protector after the death of the father.My brother Frank did this and now I realize that he is free of pain and not having to take that needle in the morning nor afternoon for his diabetes and he told me to watch my health and I have been eating up a storm and I am putting on the pounds and i cant get rid of them.I am lost with out Frank,but he wanted me to live and do things that I couldnt do when i was younger and I am .

vader 09/28/2009

Thanks again for all your replies.It has been 5 years and I am still thinking about him.I am putting on the pounds but I have got no choice it is the medication and I miss my brother.I miss talking to him and I miss him saying and how are you?

vader 10/01/2009

tHANKS TO ALL AGAIN...ON OCTOBER 5TH...I WILL BE 62 years old and this will be my first brithday without Brad but i miss frank more and I am lost...Life is for the living and I must make my life worth living.and I will survive this and I willl go on.thansk to all vader.

vader 11/21/2009

to all who replied.i am workig part time as a bell ringer for the salvation army.The army helped Frank when he got sick in Florida.What happened to Frank is a nightmare.Frank never liked to drink..but had to to to a bachelors party.These parties have yet to be desired and some men naturally are bad boys.Frank began to9 drink a lot of beers and didnt watch his movements.He went back to the hotel room and when he awoke,his wallet was gone.He was on vacation and noone believed him.The Salvation Army gave him a room and a place to stay.His friend found out what happened to Frank picked him up in a few days and gave him the money to go home.Frank taught me to watch my movements...ladies..this is the holiday season...watch your wallets,guys...be careful of crowds and dont drink with anyone whom you dont know.Your life will thank you.

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