No one can tell anyone how to grieve - we all grieve in our own way. Please don't feel guilty for your pain. I have lost many people in my family. My dad was 85 - had a wonderful life; that was 9 years ago and I still miss him very much. I lost my my brother 7 months ago - he was only 46. Sure, there are people out there that have experienced worse tragedies than others, but it doesn't lessen our grief and us missing the person we have lost.
I hope this helps alittle.

my name is vader and I would like to reply.First of all...no one has got the right to tell anyone how to grieve and we myust grieve in our own time.And we must also not to be made to feel quilty..what about when all of these movie stars that do it? My brother was 68 and he died in 2004.He died on 8/1/2004.I spoke to him last on 7/18/2004 and Frank was discussing The World Series with me.He was a Yankee fan and knew all of the players.He gave me so much.Because of my brother I am able to discuss sports...you see in seattle where i am all of the guys are in to sports.He gave me the topics to talk about and he gave me the love of all music.He wasjust the best brother going and he loved being a brother.My mother was 84 and she died in 2003.My mother was in a nursing home and at the time of her death...my mother and I were not speaking.We
never got along.My mother was always yelling at me over something and she just never accepted the fact that I like things that she never did......I lost my father in November of 1987.He was 71 and came home from the hospital and died and i will never forget him nor that day.And I will say this this there are a great many people today who have had more tragedy then me...but this doesnt aleve the fact that in a 40 year time limit I lost a great deal of my family.It is only my other brother and me now.We are close.He lives in New York and is very successful.And I will always miss my brother no matter what my doctor said.And do remember that all of us have got beautiful memories of the fact that they were our family and noone will ever take away my brothers memory and tomorrow night I am going to watch the World Series.Frank wanted the Yankees to win and it they do it will be their 40th World Series and that shows me that they are good sports team and this win will be for Frank and the others.When you can...do what I did.I carry a picture of Frank with me and I talk to it when noone is around.I have made a shrine for him in my home and there is candle by his picture of the brother that I still mourn.We are allowed to,miss people.And we are allowed to grieve and dont let anyone say that you can grieve.vader.