My brother is 10 yrs older than me, and we never really got along. There were tolerable truces but that's about as good as it ever got.

He died two weeks ago, nobody told me he had cancer, his girlfriend knew, and one cousin knew. Oh how I wish someone had told me. As much as I didnt care for him, he was still my brother. Had I known I'd have reached out to him and put aside the animosity. I dont know if he swore others to secrecy or not but it seems that way.

He had cancer on his face that was treated but came back and spread. I had no idea. It annoys me and upsets me that I was not given a chance to talk to him especially when it became apparent he was going to die.

I'm not sure how to handle this. I know I'll get over it in time, there really isn't any love lost, but holy cow what a thing to do to his only sister.

Any thoughts would be appreciated, thanks.