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AShould i celebrate Thanksgiving and Xmas vader

Group Foundervader
vader
I have got a question tht has bothered me for quite some time.Should i celebrate Thanksgiving and Xmas? You see I live in seattle and my other brother lives in New York and all of my friends that I knew here from 10 years ago moved back to their home town state.My last friend started a business.He is not doing well.He was in an apartment and it went condo and he couldnt afford the condo...he couldnt find reasonable rent in seattle so at 35.he moved back home to Michigan! He is living with his parents of their farm so he told me.He also told me that his dad hasnt been feeling well and he has been worried about him.I dont kn ow of anyone that I can share Thanksgiving with.Brad and i used to go to the church and have a turkey dinner.Since Brads death..i fell so different.Brad committed suicide on 5/22/09 and if I wasnt so self absored trying to get better on my behalf.he would still be here.Brad had 7 signs and I ignored them.I ignored my Brad and i turned my back on him but i tried to get him help.I tried.Today I cried for half and hour and i am crying now as I think of the holidays..what would you do?
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I have the same problem with the holidays, my sister was murdered by her husband and the police kiled him they left me with 2 little girls and none of us want to be here for thanks giving it was her holiday she always made dinner for all of us and I can not handle being around home with what has happened the kids dont want to be here too. I am so sorry about your brother. Can you go visit your friends for the holidays?
Group Foundervader
vader
to all who replied.I have decided to celebrate thanksgiving with a few friends.I am going to buy a small turkey
and get two small ;pies..I normally dont have people over..but since Brads death...this loneliness is making me looney.Today i cried for half and hour...holidays without my father isnt the same.My dad was the life fo the party and I miss his humour and his stories....why is everyone trying to cheer me up? I want Brad back.I want to tell him that I am so sorry..and this is to everyone if your loved one is going thru a crisis...please dont be like me.Dont ignore it.I did and because of this and other things..Brad choose to end his life and now i am at 62 and alone.Dont let this happen to you!
Group Foundervader
vader
to all who replied.I have decided to celebrate thanksgiving with a few friends.I am going to buy a small turkey
and get two small ;pies..I normally dont have people over..but since Brads death...this loneliness is making me looney.Today i cried for half and hour...holidays without my father isnt the same.My dad was the life fo the party and I miss his humour and his stories....why is everyone trying to cheer me up? I want Brad back.I want to tell him that I am so sorry..and this is to everyone if your loved one is going thru a crisis...please dont be like me.Dont ignore it.I did and because of this and other things..Brad choose to end his life and now i am at 62 and alone.Dont let this happen to you!