Sexual Betrayal Recovery Group Community Group
This board has been created especially for those who have discovered a partner's secret sexual behaviors and suffered resultant mental, emotional and physical damage. And, it is my desire to invite open, honest communication. Each of us are in a different place, from pre-discovery, to immediate discovery, to recovering our bearings, and moving on. Need to talk?
I am trying to overcome the feelings I have. I need advice to try and save my marriage, but I am having a hard time with trusting my wife to not be lying to me and carrying on with other men online.
The level of betrayal, and hurt runs so deep that I feel I lost my heart and soul. I loved her so much and never wanted anything or anyone that much, but trust is basically gone now and I dont know how to get it back. I have lost all will to live except maybe revenge which keeps popping into my head.
Any advice would be helpful.
Focus on your values your morals your boundaries.
Learn to trust yourself.
Start a daily journal
Get healthy, get fit, get your career where you want it, get your spiritual body and mind where you need it to be.
Learn your hobbies, love yourself in the quite. sit down with yourself daily in the quite and talk and listen to yourself.
Take your own advice what would you tell your best friend to do.
How would you help your best friend.
I pray you are safe and healthy
I just joined and I am going through the exact same thing with my husband. After years of lying and online infidelity and recent almost meeting those online encounters, I had about enough and broke down and said we need a separation. The funny part is 2 weeks ago we went to a marriage therapist who said we first need to do individual therapy and we did that last week. And come to find out couple days ago he is still seeking online affairs. What was the point of therapy? So the member above my comment is exactly right, take care of you first. We hurt spouses are in a desperate situation to not lose our spouses, and act irrational and crazy to make them see what they are doing to us. Unfortunately we can’t force anyone to feel what we feel. They have serious issues that needs to be addressed. They do not love themselves. They don’t. Even if they say hey do they are happy, that’s not happiness or love. Love is kind, patience, caring, happy, pure, respectful, HONEST. Love is when u can’t wait to get home to be greeted by love. I have been so emotionally beaten n lost that it has taken words like this to really sit myself down n ask if I love myself. If I do why do I allow to be treated so ugly and so disrespect? Learn to be strong and love yourself, I am with you buddy, I know it hurts I know I am too hurting but I am learning to love myself and find my inner happiness along the way.
I gave my wife everything she ever wanted. I drained my 20 year retirement account , to keep her comfortable and take care of issues that came up for her. I always supported her problems. Its just amazing how selfish people can be that they want everything when they need you, but when you need them its to much and they run.