Sexless Marriage Community Group

This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.

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Young vibrant in a sexless marriage

Julika
Julika

I've been with my spouse for 12 years we have not been sexual in anyway in 10 years my husband is 66 and I'm 45. I told myself for many years that I was okay with not having a physical relationship because we are very happy and we get along just great. But I turned 45 last year in August and things are changing my libido has changed I desire sex .I'm still very sexually attracted to my husband .he just doesn't have the desire he has had some medical issues that's has contributed . He doesn't even get aroused watching porn .So i got over it possibly being me. I feel horrible about this .im young beautiful full of life. Im at a time in my life were i look really good and im sitting here looking great the best I have looked since I was 25 yrs old and my husband has not touched me in 10 years it's so hard I don't know what to do .

sexless_in_SOCAL
sexless_in_SOCAL
I am a 42 year old man from Southern California, and I know exactly how and what you feel. My Fiance of 10 years (yep I know) has been cold and devaluing me in the bedroom for years now. If we have sex 8 times a year It is a miracle. Let me start by telling you I'm not some idiot in a wife beater swilling beer everyday. I own my own home free and clear, bring in money (by renting it out ) we live in her house but I pay all of the bills, do the grocery shopping the cleaning and make home cooked meals every night. But nothing is good enough. I feel so unwanted when I brush her hair across her shoulder and she yells at me to leave her alone. To put it bluntly, It sucks. Ever since we moved in together the sex stopped, I was lucky to make love to her twice a year. It has been months and months and I do find her beautiful (and tell her so) I even spent over $1,000 dollars on new clothes for her new job.
I am so frustrated and I understand how you feel, all I want is a loving sexual connection with her. The truth is no matter the occasion she has an excuse to leave me longing for physical contact :I'm tired from work, my head hurts I want to go to sleep...ME TOO but I still find the energy to do everything around here (household chores) and make time for her. I am getting to the point where I cant take the repetitive rejection any longer. I feel your pain and wish you the best in your situation, for me I guess its either porn or leaving, Im sure your in the same situation, its so frustrating and damaging when you are rejected over and over, I guess the bottom line is shall we stay in our relationships or shall we go.