Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Hiiii to everyone! This is a club I NEVER dreamt I'd be joining! I'm 42 husband 58 ... been together 10 years. My husband is all but Dead sexually. In the past 3 years we've had sex twice. You'd think this would be ever so concerning to him... ummm no not at all! His sex drive died 6 years ago after a heart failure diagnosis and I know you all probably think well that makes perfectly great sense... but the problem is my husband has fully restored 2 cars in that time ( he lives in the garage) worked around the clock 12 hours a day with zero health issues! During his long term car projects I sat in my room staring at the walls, sometimes crying, sometimes angry, other times I'd throw caution to the wind and make a move only to be completely tossed aside and told that I need to stop living in a fantasy world and that theirs more to marriage than sex. May I remind everyone that these words would be spoken after a year or longer with ZERO affection. If I dare to tell him in a sweet or even crying manner that I feel ugly, unloved, unwanted, trapped alone or dead emotionally he immediately yells at me and tells me I'm selfish and that I need to grow up that life is about survival not joy and happiness. My husband takes me NOWHERE. We have not been anywhere together in almost two years. I literally mean nowhere (besides dr appointments) I'm 42 years old I stopped having sex 5 years ago ... I get nothing! He says as long as the bills are paid I need to stop thinking that life is a romance novel. I'm so close to the door but the only thing that keeps me from running out screaming I'm DONE is that he's "sick" and I do not want the world to view me as a heartless pig who only cared about my own selfish needs. There is absolutely NO talking to him about my feelings at all. I'm just the caretaker, maid, errand runner period. No advice needed really just at my wits end and ready to bolt for my life! Thank you, if you took the time to read my rambling. Super depressing day today and lonely doesn't dare scratch the surface of how low I am feeling.
So sorry you too wound up here, but welcome and know you are not alone. Kim
Thanks a million
It’s no fun being part of this group and you’ll find all of us have something in common.
I go maybe every 6 mo. My wife is your age and I’m 46. She says this happens to all women. Obviously not, you’re proof of that. I want to talk about all of this and get the passion back but she blocks it out. Says nothing and I do therapy chat here and work on myself. My life is good but this. I’ feel like roommates and just coparents and I get no compromise from her. I can do all of this without her just like you could. They’re choice is theirs and our choice is ours. If people think we’re assholes for leaving then too bad for them. I’ve thought about making Tshirt Sexless Marriage Survivor. People don’t get it unless they live this pain. I don’t want to take my wife anywhere because wht should I if she won’t even talk to me about her feelings.
Stay strong. Do what makes you feel good about yourself. I feel we’ve been cheated on by being ignored. She’s going to have to decide if she wants me in her life.
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