Don't give up! You are not alone and there is always something worth living for and a person who doesn't know how to treat his wife isn't worth it! My oppinion. I think if someone makes you feel like that they don't deserve you not the other way around!!!
Lots of huggs and understanding!!

Please know that HIS PROBLEM has nothing to do with you or is in any way your fault. My late hubby and I did have some sex for the first 5 years we were married but then something happened and he completely shut down both emotionally and physically.

I understand just how incredibly empty, hopeless and worthless this does make you feel. This is when I started to reach out and chat with others. You are still the person you always were... and I am sure smart, attractive, compassionate and caring. Even though your idiot spouse does not make you feel it, desirable and lovable as well.

Witchita guy is right... if someone makes you feel like that, they do not deserve you. I would say if you have mentioned how this makes you feel and he doesn't respond or care, then you should not worry about him. You need to start to think of and do for yourself. Things that ,make you feel good. For me even simple things at first like greeting others with a smile and perhaps a friendly word or two made me feel better. I would discover by the way others treated me I was a good person who had lots to offer. As do you!!!

PS. I am realizing now after I am halfway through this "book" LOL that I am way too chatty. (Perhaps another result of spending years being ridiculed or ignored. )

Hugs , Kim

It doesn’t matter how we all got here, we’re here now and to help figure out what we should do with the rest of our lives. I’m 46 with zero passion or even communication from my wife besides the normal day to day. I stopped begging for it just as an experiment to see how long she might go or at least ask why I stopped asking. After 6 mo never asked why or initiated anything. I counted 3 unsolicited touches. There is something seriously wrong with your husband, just like my wife and it’s not your job to fix him. You need to heal yourself, work on you and live your life like he will never change. If you can’t live like that, move on. That’s the point I’m at. When this experiment ends she’s going to have to explain what she thought of her time off and if that’s what she prefers. She does not communicate her needs or her feeling so I’m left assuming the worst. It caused me depression and anxiety as well. It’s the only part of our life that sucks and it kills me, but she’s fine. I’m willing to end it all but she’s not willing to meet me in the middle to save it. If that’s the case I determined why am I working so hard to save it. Same with you. Action or lack thereof speaks louder than words.

It helps to vent here, get a therapist and improve yourself. You don’t have to live like this.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please Please Please don't blame yourself. Nov 30th was my 8 year anniversary. We haven't celebrated our anniversary the past 4 years and it's been 3 years since we've had sex. My husband moved out of the bedroom one day and hasnt been back since. I blamed my weight, my looks, my moods, anything that could make it my fault. I know it is not my fault, it's something he is going through and that he has failed to get help for. I also know that knowing this doesnt always make me feel much better. We all deserve to feel loved and desired. Our situation is a hard and hurtful one to be in, but as you can see you aren't alone. Believe in yourself, make yourself happy and know there are people who care and want to listen and help.