Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Long story short... My first marriage ended after 20 years. Sex was great before we got maried but after marriage my wife told me married couples dont have frequent great sex. It all but stopped. Bare min sex about every other month. We had kids so I staied and raised them. After the youngest graduated I filed for divorce.
Met Another woman. We dated for 6 months. Lived together for a year and a half then got married. Sex was good. Again, after getting married the sex went down the drain. She never wore lingerie. Refused to buy any. Wore t-shirts and shorts to bed. Some times sweat pants and sweat shirts. A few times she even wore her jeans to be. Doesnt let me see her naked. Sex, when we do have it about every other month, is in the bed room with no lights on. even when we are home alone, the bedroom door is shut and locked. Its play with her untill she is satisfied and then she lays there and tells me to fuck her until I get off. No longer any sex in any part of the house.
She complains about my attitude. I have a high sex drive and told her that when we first got together and she didnt have a problem with it. Now I get so frustrated and pent up and she just sees nothing wrong with it. I quit touch her and try getting romantic. She tells me to quit, stop, dont touch. After a while why bother. She controls the sex. It is always scheduled and most of the time it gets rescheduled. She starts fights just to get ou of it. Takes no responsibility for anything. All my proble and issue. Tired! DONE! NEED HELP!!!!
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am married almost 15 years, the last 10 with no sex or any kind of physical touch (It sucks. For a long time I completely shut down....less than a year ago, someone else did flip the switch. I now crave all that I have been missing and so want to step back into life again.)
I am wondering if something happened that maybe your wife is suddenly feeling more self conscious about her body.....did she gain a little weight? or maybe did you make a comment sometime back? (unfortunately women sometimes obsess over a quick remark and take it to heart)
The fact that she has to control things tell you what and when to do....is very manipulative ,cruel, and selfish (in my opinion anyway) I know very little as I'm not really into porn (frankly I would rather not watch, but be doing it myself. lol) but I think they say that too much porn can affect things as well.
I wish I had some words of wisdom, unfortunately I still struggle from day to day myself. Trying to decide if I have had enough and want it all back....or if I should stay, be faithful but having to resort to toys instead of a real live, affectionate person. It really is a struggle. :(
It is funny because I was just about to say life is too short to waste it being miserable. (Something I need to remember as well.) In both of our situations, I would say we deserve a helluva lot better.
PS. You might want to be wary....if she is so controlling and locking you in....watch out for stilettos, dominatrix outfits and a whip.....lol (sorry, bad humor)