Welcome to the group (but sorry you wound up here too)
In answer to your question..... Yes women want sex too. What I have learned is that this has no simple guidelines. There are many of us from 20s to 70s .... Both male and female who happened to hook up to another who would either have health issues or for one reason or another..just no longer want or need sex.
It is frustrating as hell for us as we start to wonder what's wrong with us.

If you have a new baby that could be why she steers clear right now. I would say if it were me I would need to at least tell her how it makes me feel.

With my late hubby it would ultimately do no.good. But for me taking that first step to speak up did help me.

You are way too young to be stuck. In a sexless relationship.
Hugs, Kim

As I reread my post here, I do hope you can forgive me.

What I meant to say was that this issue is even more difficult when you are younger because you do have a healthier strong libido..

My hope is that you may be able to try counseling or at least let her know you are concerned about her. And how this does make you feel. We all need to touch, feel, connect and communicate. We are human.
You are in my. Thoughts and prayers

No offencev taken...just to clarify...my child is 2 + years old.she was never interested in sex from first day of marriage, I literally went through the motions to have the child,we tried counseling. I was told with time things will change.

You are right, being younger makes it hard.

To me there is nothing more frustrating or hurtful when we are informed our SO does not care how this affects us. Simply states they are not worried about or desire sex. Completely disregarding our wants, needs.

I am thinking she knows all too well she has you hook, line and sinker. You wanna be a good dad and good hubby. But you too deserve to find things that you also do want/ crave.

I am so sorry you are going through this. To answer your question, Yes, definitely yes women have the urge, desire to have sex just like men. I'm going on a little over 2 years without it and not a day goes by that I don't think about it and want it. I never thought it would be a problem for me because my husband and I started out with great chemistry and we really enjoyed having sex together. But slowly overtime he kept withdrawing from the relationship, he left the bedroom and often is away for days at a time. If we didn't share a son together he'd never be home. If there is still love there for one another don't give up, try counseling. To me sex is part of a happy, healthy marriage and your partner shouldn't expect you to be ok with not having it. Best of luck to you

Just an update...my wife came saw my post here..I was composing a different response.she saw it and laughed at my face.I was puzzled.she said good luck to you and your "posts".she is fully aware of what I am going through. She is just not interested in sex....plain and simple.

Now what?

Okay. Just my 2 cents here.... but lack of sex aside, she should not laugh in your face like that. I feel its rude and disrespectful. If my husband ever treated me that way I would poison his dinner or hit him in the face with a 2x4. No joke. Marriages have their problems, obviously sex being as to why we are on here. But disrespect is a whole nother issue. Seems like she doesn't care. Not just about the problem but about your feelings. And that's not fair to you. Do what you feel is right. But I don't think cheating is as answer. I say if it can't be fixed, accept it, or move on. Raising a child in a bad marriage never does anyone any good. Wishing you luck. I'm here for ya.

I don't say this lightly, Krispal, but it sounds like you're being abused.

I was a victim of long term abuse mainly in the form of criticism and neglect. This sounds similar.

I do think the others do have a point. The fact she is disrespectful and hurtful is not fair to you. I do also still think she knows you are the type of man who does feel responsible and will be there and do what you can to care for your child and ultimately her. That is why she is so smug and doesn't give it a second thought.

You do deserve better and to be happy. Rather than stay stuck and have the anger and resentment build, maybe start to really think about what YOU want and need. You can still be a part of your child's life but maybe break away from her (if that is what you do want)

Hugs, Kim

Thanks a lot to Noblesville, veggiequeen an everyone for your advice. I am not able to break away from her because I know the importance of parents in a child's life.aslo, the only thing my wife does is take care of my child..and be on phone..social media...I let her be the 4 years of our marriage..I thought, she is a human,a woman, I am sure she too will have the urges and needs..let her warm up to me and I shall take over..to my suprise..she Never..Never...came close to me..never sat close next to me..never ...thats why in my first post I asked if woman have the urge to have sexlike men...? I want to know what goes on in her mind...when woman feel the need for sex..can anyone help me understand

When there is no desire for sex or any type of affection it is usually one of two things. There may be an underlying medical issue. (pain with intercourse, or many women lose interest with hormonal changes during menopause--- though your wife is far too young for that)

Could she have suffered some sort of abuse or emotional or physical trauma. before you were together? This could have alot to do with why someone does not want any affection , sex and shies away from any possible physical contact. Has she ever mentioned anything or could you gently bring it up? If that is the case, If someone does go through something like that, unless they are able to open up and talk with someone (counselor, therapist...) it will only get worse.