Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
hi all i am bill i am 52 years old,i aint in a tottally sexless marriage but very close
this is my second marriage and her third we were school sweethearts and after graduation went separate ways.so 15 years ago we bumped in to each other and clicked again 2 months after that bump we were married and we are perfect for each other, about 7 years ago she had a heart attack ,she is a diabetic,and she has fibromyalga , due to all this and the meds she has to take she has lost all desire for sexit faded at first then went completely away,
when we were first married it was all great anytime anyhow anywhere, she absolutely loved sex so all this was very hard for me to understand, i will admit i was angry at her at first because my drive was in full gear and i was def in need, but i did learn to understand it wasn't her fault and she didn't stop on purpose.
so were still very much in love,i love her as much as ever, i haven't cheated and probably never would but i cant say the thought has never crossed my mind, self pleasure is OK but i miss the intimacy and feel of my wife,dont matter if your male or female i believe a person misses the touch and feel of real sex, i feel i am a manly man lol big bad oilfield worker , but i have litterally broke down and cried over the situation many times, i think , is it me? am i not good enough? do i disgust her? am i big enough?, all the questions have went through my mind, but deep down i know it is that disease and meds and i do understand, so i dont pressure her for anything,
and i know she understands i got needs to and she hates how she is and bless her heart she does try, about every 5 months she will lay there and let me do it and i love her for it but it aint the same ,,
so folks sorry for that long intro and rant yall have a good day im from east texas by the way
It is an awful thing when health issues do rob a person (and ultimately both) of such an important and special bond.. The fact that she does still try for you tells us lots (many just shut down and refuse for reasons far less. Some simply because they no longer care about sex or whether we still want or need it or not)
The fact that you do both love each other and may be able to share simple things --- watching a movie together on the couch, (not sure if that is possible for her or maybe it may be even harder for you, but a possibility)?
I have been married for over 17 years. The last 12 with very little communication, no affection, physical touch, sex or help of any kind. I have been giving all, but getting very little back. My stbx did suddenly shut down both physically and emotionally . Expected me to do the same. (I tried for awhile but it is no way to live) There are so many of us here , all ages and for many different reasons.
You are (both)in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, KIm
Yep, self pleasure fulfills a bodily need and helps relieve some stress, but overall it’s empty. We all want and need the connection sex brings and to touch and be touched by the person we love and desire. Sex with someone who is only doing it for you must be a whole different kind of pain. At least your wife is trying to meet your needs, and that says a lot about how much she loves you and the kind of woman she is.