I am so sorry you wound up here, For most of us, it does help to know we are not alone. But I do understand what it is like to feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated. I have been married for 17 years (the last 12 with no affection, very little communication and absolutely no help. ) a few years ago, I did start divorce proceedings (we have no children to hold us together) but I have been guilted into pausing things several times when he has another issues or health problem.

As hard as it is, we need to find the strength and courage to start to do things for ourselves. Hobbies you like, or get togethers in groups (She doesn't wanna go, enjoy yourself without her) and enjoy your time with the little one.

It does break my heart to know there are SO MANY (men especially, but women too) who do sacrifice their life and happiness to an uncaring spouse because they believe it is their responsibility and duty to hold their family together.

PS I did wind up feeling incredibly lonely, unlovable and about as sexy as a garden slug. Would discover that is far from the truth. I hope you do remember that too.

Hugs, Kim

Kim,

Thanks for the kind words. I have hobbies a'plenty. I ride my motorcycle, play guitar, etc... But as I'm sure you know, those are poor substitutes for touch and affection. Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow.

Michael

You are so very right about that. For me, I felt (hell sometimes still do) unattractive unwanted and unlovable. As he had no more desire or need, I would grow more curious and investigate all that I have missed out on . Started to chat and share with others who would remind me that I am all that I ever was (is his problem, not mine) Still, as I do try to take care of myself, it is no comparison to the real thing with someone who truly wants you and sex.

A biker? So are you a Harley Dude? (smiling here) You can flirt with those biker babes. May not be the same thing, but they will definitely help boost your bruised ego.

Hugs, Kim

LOL, No. I ride a Honda. Big bike, but not a Harley. I love to get on the road on a beautiful day and just ride with no particular destination in mind. I have a pilots license and used to fly for stress relief, but that got prohibitively expensive.

the great thing about flying or riding a motorcycle is that I can only really think about one thing...the task at hand. Keeps my mind off my troubles and gives me some time to focus on something relatively simple and straightforward. It's almost a Zen thing...

Now, if I could just figure out a way to stay on the Motorcycle all the time and just never have to stop...LOL

I have never been on a bike, and doubt I will at this stage, but I can imagine it is very freeing. The sun on your face, wind in your hair and an endless retreat to wherever you chose. Enjoy your time.

I do kind of retreat into my writing and that does help me to escape (as much as I can . You know how that is)

Hugs