Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Hello everyone. I'm new to this group but I'm wondering if anyone here has figured out a healthy way to deal with this issue?
A little bit about me: I'm 34 years old, a stay at home mom and my husband is 41. We've been married for 18 months. We have a six month old son, our first child. I'm very attracted to my husband and, until recently, was very much in love with him.
We have several issues going on but one of the main ones is the fact that he doesn't seem to be interested (at all) in having sex with me. When we are intimate it's very sporadic and usually at his prompting which may be once every 3 or 4 weeks. If and when I try to initiate sex he always gives an excuse for why we can't be together (headache, allergies, sore from work, etc.) If he thinks that I may try to hint at us having sex he'll come up with a reason to get out of the house for awhile to avoid it. It occured to me several days ago that we've only had sex 5 or 6 times this year and it's not because I haven't wanted to.
This has become VERY frustrating for me as I find my husband extremely sexy and enjoy the times when we are together but they're becoming to infrequent for me. Adultry is not an option as far as I'm concerned but I'd like to know if anyone here can offer some suggestions for how to deal with this particular issue.
A little bit about me: I'm 34 years old, a stay at home mom and my husband is 41. We've been married for 18 months. We have a six month old son, our first child. I'm very attracted to my husband and, until recently, was very much in love with him.
We have several issues going on but one of the main ones is the fact that he doesn't seem to be interested (at all) in having sex with me. When we are intimate it's very sporadic and usually at his prompting which may be once every 3 or 4 weeks. If and when I try to initiate sex he always gives an excuse for why we can't be together (headache, allergies, sore from work, etc.) If he thinks that I may try to hint at us having sex he'll come up with a reason to get out of the house for awhile to avoid it. It occured to me several days ago that we've only had sex 5 or 6 times this year and it's not because I haven't wanted to.
This has become VERY frustrating for me as I find my husband extremely sexy and enjoy the times when we are together but they're becoming to infrequent for me. Adultry is not an option as far as I'm concerned but I'd like to know if anyone here can offer some suggestions for how to deal with this particular issue.
Frankly, the thought of divorce has crossed my mind because of this issue.
If I try to discuss the issue, it ends up in a big fight that is always my fault....... because I'm "trying to start something and can't just be happy" It hurts me and now has begun to make me angry that he thinks our not having sex is "not about me".