What can I say? I'm here for a reason--I'm like you all--living in a sexless marriage. 

What doesn't make sense to me is everything seemed to be fine until I put the ring on her. I feel like I've been had, bait and switch and all that. But we've been together for four years now, married for 3. 

She's gorgeous, but extremely selfish and controlling. We have sex, but only when SHE feels like it and then it's zero effort on her part and tells me to "hit it and quit it and 'stop enjoying it'." I'm lucky if we have sex 4 - 10 times a year. This is fucked.

Again, all was fine until she got her ring: had sex multiple times a week and now nothing. I'm a "perv who only wants" her "for sex" when I try and a terrible jerk when she bullshittingly makes a reference toward sex and I say "what's the point? You're not going have sex with me anyway." She clearly is using sex as a tool and or weapon when she wishes, but has THE lowest sex drive I've ever encountered on all other occasions. 

I try to be patient and understanding, so I take care of myself. But then she makes fun of me when she catches me in the shower. It's like, maybe if you helped me here, I wouldn't have to do this!

What's even more fucked is that I genuinely love this girl. She's the most beautiful woman in the world to me, shares my sense of humor, accepts my goofiness, understands my hard work ethic, is a great mother to our pups and can be beyond thoughtful at intermittent, random times. 

I really don't think I'd ever leave her, but sex is important to me. I need it to feel connected with my partner, loved, wanted and happy. I told her this many, many, many times and still seems she could care less. I've suggested therapy, but she refuses to go to a "shrink." 

I really am at a loss for how to proceed and have been for quite some time, but just can't take it anymore. 

Heartbroken and rejected as always,

- J.S.