Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
A few days ago, my sadness about my loveless marriage was at an all time low. I was sick and tired of feeling bitter and depressed all the time. That kind of sad where you're so low that you can't cry. I was standing in the shower with my hair dripping...and I just started talking. I said "(Real name), you're never going to kiss or be kissed again, you're never going to have sex again, you're never going to have real intimacy again, and you're never going to be in love again. You can't keep up this pain anymore. It's time to make the best of the life you have. "
I felt numb for the rest of the day, but ever since then I feel at peace.
I hope everyone else gets a better outcome than I did, but it's nice to not be in so much pain, however long it lasts.
I do say out loud, "I am a beautiful sexy woman inside and outside. Even if he can't see it. Even if he doesn't appreciate it. Someone out there does and will."
Which is not intended to say I'm leaving or cheating. But allows me to remember that I have options. I can choose to stay, or I can choose to leave. I don't have to feel stuck in this life.
Big hugs to you!
I did wind up chatting and texting with many from all over and I do have to say the support, and reassurance that I was not a sex fiend for simply wanting intimacy and to be touched again after 12 years did help. I was reminded that I am still attractive , sexy, desirable and human. WE ALL NEED TO REMEMBER THAT!
A line in a movie where 1 woman shares with 2 friends about flirting ... they ask why she flirts when she is supposed to be happily married... her response is that it's not that happy and flirting helps keep her sexual being healthy. " Everybody should sexercise daily"
I think it can help to take in any positive feedback to remind us we do have alot to offer. Also flirting does wonders for our wounded self esteem.
I have also opened up as have others to share some fantasies , what we want or miss or do hope we may be lucky enough to get a taste of again.
Saying that out loud I realize I sound like an evil person. But one thing I have come to understand after going through all this and hearing so many other stories is everything IS NOT black and white. There are alot of grey areas and reasons why people do things they never dreamed they would.
I send hugs and gropes and hope that things may continue to look up for us all (with whatever circumstances we are dealt. ) Kim
Brandon from Kansas