Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Just curious
It is great to have lots of help from others in this group on how to deal with being in a sexless marriage but I wonder about something. Has any one in (our previously in) this group found a resolution and corrected the situation?
I know it's a strange question but it's kind of heart breaking to think no one finds an answer which makes me sad to think I may be in this situation forever.
I love my wife deeply and I am sure she loves me, she is just incapable of intamacy. Leaving her would kill her, changing her depression meds could kill her, last night we discussed me getting involved in swinging as a single married guy. She was not totally against the idea and totally not for it either. In some ways this actually makes sense. As a single player with couples you would (most likely) never get into a position where you would fall for another women and leave but still get the sexual contact you require. I want sex not love
Has anyone else tried this resolution and if so how did it work out?
She might’ve more like the best roommate I ever had vs best friend or lover. Some people are cool with that. I am not. It’s not cheating when you are ignored for over a decade. Forcing someone to be sexless like them is worse than cheating.
I let with another couple that was interested in having another male join them, my wife was 100% in the know (I never had not ever will hide anything from my wife).
The sex was amazing and there was lots of it. Here comes the cool part.
After I got home and spoke with my wife about the meeting. We had the most sex we have ever had. They call it "reclaiming effect" she was very attentive for 3 days straight.
She says ever since I met with them she can't help but think about me with them and it makes her want to have sex with me.
I am meeting with that couple again this weekend.
I will report back if this continues to work. This is a total win win. I get the sex I want and I also get the connected sex from my wife.
This was the scariest conversation with my wife I have ever had but it has the end out to be the best.
Congrats again
Then just contacted a few. At we a meet up for coffee we hit it off and decided to play.
My wife and I have friends that have been swingers for years and they suggested I try it.
Damn happy I did.
We fully below Eve that there is a complete difference between sex and love. You can have sex without love and that what swinging is, we explain it like this, Sex is like a sport (hockey, football etc) when your having sex with someone else it's just like playing sports it's a while lot of fun be t there is no love involved. We have been together for 38 years and it's love that has kept me a together not sex, so makes sense that sex does not hold the key to love and therefore if you have sex with another you can do so without feeling love.
Also if I am playing with other couples then the change of intimate emotions happening are very low as she is already in a committed relationship and I am truly just looking for sex.
It is the weirdest thing but seems to be working for us very well. Can't say it's going to work for everyone. I guess we have been together so long, we never have had secrets and we are always open with each other that she does not worry about me getting connected to anyone else and neither am I.
Another cool thing from my swinging is we now have some good friends that even my wife gets along with
I would like to say that this may not work for others but had worked for me. We discussed it a kit and she agrees that just because she is not interested in sex that I should not have to suffer, I get the sex I need and we still have a great relationship.
We have learned that sex and love are not the same thing, you can have sex with others that you do not love, but we I definately feel that sex with the one you love is by far the best.
Not sure this helps anyone but here is hoping.