Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Hello everyone. I am a 44, married for 26 years, have 2 great kids and an all but dead sexlife! It's been 2 years with out anything close physical. We hardly hug and she kisses me like you would an other family member. Our love life has been on a decline now for about 15 years, with us maybe having sex once a year but only "quickies" to get me by but only makes it worse! I am trying to train myself not to need it but it's all i think about! Not sure how long i can do this for anymore!
So that is the short of it. Hello and sorry to join the club but thanks!
I don't have any magical words of wisdom but would suggest (if you haven't tried already) an marriage therapist that specializes in sexual issues.
Communication between you and your wife is of the utmost importance. Sit down and have a heart to heart with her. I am sure you have tried these but thought it was good to mention. There are a lot of great people in this group,
Best of luck and reach out to the group when you need support.
I have to say when I first stumbled upon this group it was of some comfort to know I was not the only person who's spouse had become nothing more than a roommate.
It does so much damage to our self esteem and although you suggest the fix we all try..."to train ourselves to want less", I have learned that way is so empty .
I' ve come to realize that we are all human (well, most of us. Lol) and when we have no chances of getting any, that is when we barely think of anything else. Sex on the brain. There is a group on here that some of us go to named just that. We go to commiserate, share desires, fantasies, sometimes just to sound off to get others perspectives on what our spouses do try to convince us to keep us at bay.
Hugs and good thoughts that things may improve for you (and the rest of us. )