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WonderingWife
WonderingWife

My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years. When we first got together i never thought too much about the hour or 2 he would spend in the bathroom. And we didn't live together so everytime we would see eachother we had sex.  Somewhere at the end of the first year i walked in on him watching porn when he thought i was asleep. We had a conversation about it he said he didn't watch it often. I had my suspicions after that so i actually looked at his phone and he has been paying for a membership and was watching it 4 to 6 times a day. He stopped having sex with me he now waits until i go to sleep and watches it all night. I don't know how to tell him this is an addiction. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but if he won't get help i don't want to be in this relationship. How do i help or talk to him?

stoptouchingit
stoptouchingit
You have to be brutally honest with him and let him know this. If he doesn’t take it seriously you may have to move on.
Supercoolcat1984
Supercoolcat1984
It's an addiction he needs to stop cause it will push u away more and more . I suggest talking to him tell him how u feeling about all of it. Good luck
WonderingWife
WonderingWife
I had talked to him. He has still been doing it. I just realized it key does it at work if he closes and it's the last one there. I am so hurt I don't know how to go about this. We have a child together it doesn't seem like it was like this when we began dating. I'm scared to admit that this may have been going on the entire time.
WonderingWife
WonderingWife
Should I tell him that I know when he does it? Or show him the logs I have pulled up?
Supercoolcat1984
Supercoolcat1984
Yeah show him
Mk1
Mk1
He should understand that it's kind of a blessing that your already know and go though the battle together with you. But obviously there first step is to admit that there is a problem. Once you get him to admit that, I think you'll have an easier time with him
WonderingWife
WonderingWife
We have talked and he still thinks there isn't a problem. Im breaking on thr inside he is trying to hide it better now. Doing it at work and he used my phone today because his was dead and he thought i was sleeping. I don't think i can keep up with it. He breaks my heart saying he wants this but he is still doing it and being more irrational. Please someone tell me i am not wrong for considering leaving. I love him but i have kids and there is so much in life that needs me i can't help him see the problem. Is watching it less supposed to be improvement? He lies about it and only when i tell him i have proof does he finally say he watched it or not.