Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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UndeservedGrace
UndeservedGrace

Hi!  New to this site and group, but glad to join into the fight with you all.


In high school and college I struggled with porn, mostly pictures and such.  Off and on struggle.  The addiction broke after college but comes back in spurts.  


Some years later, those spurts get a bit more risky.  First it was pictures, now videos.  Then risky chatting.  Then video chatting.  And it hits me most when I'm home alone and tired with too much extra time.


Recently, I even paid to have an interactive video session with a female.  Ended up getting screwed out of some money.  Had to bluff my way around this as I did not want to hurt my wife (who saw the strange charges).  Woke me up to how fast this can go downhill.


But it's time to end this.  Lies cannot happen.  And like any addiction, it'll just grow.  First pics, then videos, then live chat.  What next?  Meeting someone for sex?  I admit the thought has crossed my mind.  But I only imagine how that would destroy my life.

I have internet filters, but there's always a way around.  But, I'm beginning to meet with another guy for accountability.  Someone who will ask me--point blank--about these struggles.  I can't get around that with tech saviness.  


Porn feels nice, but leads to emptiness.  It feels manly but is childish.  This is a struggle for me but it's time to be a man, be honest, and go to war with porn.  It can destroy me or I can destroy it, but we cannot move in together and expect things to remain nice.


Thanks for listening to my confession-rant :)


Restful
Restful
Glad to have another soldier by my side in this battle. I am having a stressful day at work and am tempted to give in to my addiction. It helps to have others to be accountable to. Please feel free to message me anytime if you want.
UndeservedGrace
UndeservedGrace
Thanks so much @Restful ! Tiredness, being alone, and stress are three of the most common warnings that weaken us to the temptation of sexual addiction (at least, that how it is for me).

Seek to find anything that can distract you in those moments (going on a walk, get in public, listen to music, read something, post on here, etc.)
Restful
Restful
Thank you, and I agree that distractions are critical to stay away from the maladaptive behavior that I’ve normalized over the years. For me, some of those distractions include gardening, reading fictional novels, hiking, journaling, spending time with my family, and talking to friends.
Blacksheep59
Blacksheep59
Yes you are fighting a war . And your adversary is a powerful and cunning tactical expert. I am glad you have an accountability partner, That's like a sponsor for AA. Also have you considered seeing a therapist that specializes in addictions? That might help as well. I don't know where you are spiritually but you might look into a local Bible believing church for guidance, some even have support groups for addictions. Prayers that you are successful slaying this beast.
Blacksheep59
Blacksheep59
Also I would find some distractions for when you are tempted, like taking the dog for a walk , or taking yourself for a walk ( if you don't have a dog ) Read a good book. or do some exercises, anything to get your mind off the porn. At least that's what helps me.
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