My two biggest vices were lying about my addiction to those I love, and my anger. I've tried my best to replace my anger with listening and repentence, and my lying with honesty. The honesty part is easier than the listening for me, but maybe that's because I'm male, and we usually don't listen.

Anger is a problem for many of us,, females too. I think that's a stereotype that may not be true about that men usually don't listen and women do. It's hard to listen when what's being said is....

I have struggled with the issues of anger. In my family anger was not expressed in healthy ways, nor did we do conflict resolution in healthy ways. These can be some of the deeper issues for us to work on.. and it could be that both spouses need to work on communication and conflict resolution issues.

It is often true that males and females cope differently with emotions, women tending to be more passive-aggressive, and men more direct. Marriage counselors can sometimes help a couple learn how to do effective communication, learn better social skills, once there is a commitment on both ends to do that.

Lying is a symptom of lack of real communication. There are many ways we mess up real communications,, on both ends. What if I'm honest and as a reward I get a whole guilt trip and advice,, that are hard to listen to and I don't know how to tell that person that her end of the communication needs improvement also.

umm something I do to replace the sexual vices with... I try to change my thinking about the person I see.. I try to redirect it. It's kind of like a train jumping the track. Or like 'changing the subject'.

Like yesterday, there was a guy in front of me, and my eyes started wandering over his build, and he turned around, and I noticed he had a really nice.... and then, see, I caught myself,, like whoops, don't let that nice... get me in trouble,, so I forcefully lifted my eyes to look at his head, and changed my thoughts to thoughts about him as a person with a life and wondering about that,, and then decided that I was looking and thinking long enough and better just move on,,, so then I turned my attention to something else.

I am developing like a 'conscience' about it,, like I can think about what I'm doing,, and I have enough control now to shift gears,, whereas before,, there was no thinking or ability to shift gears.. it was more like compulsive reflexes and instincts.