I am not clear why it is so wrong to want to be watched masturbating online. Many people do post pictures or films of themselves having sex and presumably give pleasure to those who want to watch ….. and if no-one is being harmed, I find it difficult to see what is wrong. Those who find it offensive don't have to watch.

Hey Barry, I agree that there is no problem for most people who want to post themselves and be watched -- my problem is that my girlfriend does not consent to me sharing my body like that. She has made it clear that me and her should be saving our bodies for just those special moments between us, and us alone -- to which I agree. I had just been having trouble controlling my urges to be watched online even though I wanted to save my body for her eyes only. Now, if she changes her mind in the future things could change! But for now, to keep her pleased and to save some of the specialty of our intimate moments I have to hold back from sharing my body online.

I agree. I think the act of showing yourself as well as the need to watch is pretty normal.

I think it’s hard to really give you some good advice on what to do to fight that cuz at the end of the day it’s hard to. I think getting past those moments that try to grip you and pull you into doing things that you don’t want to do is the biggest thing. Staying mindful all the time especially when you start to think or feel a certain way in regards to you wanting to be seen masturbating on a camera. I’ve struggled with pornography and other harmful things for a long time and I think really pulling yourself out of those moments is what matters most. For me sometimes I remind myself of how ill feel afterwards and really focus on that can help. Really getting your mind off of those things can help too but it’s not easy sometimes. Ignore all of these people that are telling you it’s okay to do what your saying you don’t want to do as it’s a problem obviously or you wouldn’t be on this website in the first place. Try to seek help as much as you can and stick to what you know is right and wrong. Watching porn and anything of that matter isn’t good at all especially if your in a relationship. I’ve struggled with porn addiction for over 7-8 years and it’s ruined my life so if you ever want to talk about any of it I’m here and I’m struggling even now as well but we can’t give up.