Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
:| hmm.. That is how I feel.. I've been trying to overcome problems in my life. Porn is just my outlet for failure and my way to celebrate happiness.
If that makes any sense at all...
Whenever I start to grab onto reality I slip back again. The higher I reach, the harder the fall is every time. It just isn't working :(.... Now after my last failure.. I feel like there is no recovering.. I feel like its pointless. I talk about how I know that porn is bad for me, how people need to be responsible and yet I am not responsible... I know that I need to take care of my responsibilities, and I will for a time. I will feel great. Then after a while I may get tired or I may feel that all is well.. Then I indulge, and it's a hard fall.. and I know it will be, but I don't listen to that voice.. I say "It doesn't matter, I'll just start again tomorrow.. and the porn follows and then the next day it's not ok. I don't know what I am asking for here but maybe I just needed to vent..
Thanks,
jabaroo
If that makes any sense at all...
Whenever I start to grab onto reality I slip back again. The higher I reach, the harder the fall is every time. It just isn't working :(.... Now after my last failure.. I feel like there is no recovering.. I feel like its pointless. I talk about how I know that porn is bad for me, how people need to be responsible and yet I am not responsible... I know that I need to take care of my responsibilities, and I will for a time. I will feel great. Then after a while I may get tired or I may feel that all is well.. Then I indulge, and it's a hard fall.. and I know it will be, but I don't listen to that voice.. I say "It doesn't matter, I'll just start again tomorrow.. and the porn follows and then the next day it's not ok. I don't know what I am asking for here but maybe I just needed to vent..
Thanks,
jabaroo
What exactly have yup tried in the past to quit porn besides just simple will power?
Lorilou
The reason you are having problems is that you are trying to control an addiction through self-discipline, and that never works. In the first place, addictions are not something that can be "controlled". And in the second place, these behaviors do not respond to self-control efforts since, by definition, an addiction is something you are powerless to control, even given your best efforts. So your efforts are doomed to failure before you even begin. However, there is another way to go and that is through a recovery program. Such a program will teach you new and different ways to deal with your addiction and bring it under control. The primary point of any recovery program is surrender of your life and will to the care of God, as you understand God. Through surrender, you give control of your desires to act out over to God and let Him take care of things for you. This is a completely different way of looking at things, but it works!
If you'd like to get started on a recovery program for yourself, the first thing you need to do is learn something about sexual addiction so you'll know what you're going to be dealing with. And the quickest and easiest way to learn about this disease is to read about it. So, I'm going to suggest you read two (2) books which will give you some basic information on this disorder. The first book is titled, "Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction", by Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. This is the first book that was ever written on this subject, and it's still one of the best books available. The second book I'd suggest you read is titled, "Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding, and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents", by Ralph Earle, Ph.D., Gregory Crow, Ph.D., and Kevin Osborn. Both books can be purchased from: www.amazon.com.
After you've read the books, you might want to check out an online program called Recovery Nation (www.recoverynation.com/). This is an online treatment program of sorts that works very well with sexual addictions. You can work the program exercises at your own pace in the privacy of your own home if you wish, or if you'd prefer, you can work with a mentor for a small fee.
And finally, you might want to check out the Twelve Step groups that exist specifically for sex addicts. There are at least five (5) such groups that together sponsor hundreds, if not thousands of weekly support meetings all across the country in every state and most large metropolitan areas:
Sexaholics Anonymous (S.A.)
www.sa.org/
Sex Addicts Anonymous (S.A.A.)
saa-recovery.org/
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.)
www.slaafws.org/
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (S.C.A.)
www.sca-recovery.org/
Sexual Recovery Anonymous (S.R.A.)
www.sexualrecoveory.org/
On each website, you'll find a list of all of their group meetings. The list will tell you when each group meets (day of the week and time), and it will also tell you where the group meets. The groups will be indexed by state to make it easier for you to find a group near you. And you will also find on each website a listing of telephone and online meetings.
So there you have a few ideas to get your recovery program started. I hope something here helps. Good luck to you!