you’re certainly not alone. Similar age, similar feelings and almost identical situation. The first step is admitting the problem, like I recently did. You obviously want to change, you want to be better. Now change is possible. Start with small goals. No porn for a week. Then 2. Then go from there. Advice I’ve gotten here is to seek out a close, trustworthy friend you can confide in. I’m working on that, but by getting it out in the open, it loses its power. I recommend checking out some of Terry Crews’ videos and thoughts, as he conquered a porn addiction. Inspiring stuff.

So sorry....this feels like a very hard thing to overcome...but you can be free of it. You may have to get outside help! Being held accountable is such a huge thing. You could seek out counseling and they can help give you the proper tools. Confessing to your wife might be something that needs to be done. Do you think she suspects? Has it affected your relationship with her at all? Typically...it does. I know that I cheated my hubby out of intimacy because of my issues. Shame can get a hold of us...and draw us into a bad cycle. You might need to get rid of any access you have to it. Maybe you get some controls on your phone. Don't allow yourself to be alone with any screens. Maybe challenge yourself to no phones in the bedroom? Find someone you can trust that you can share and maybe become an accountability partner? There are so many people struggling with this...so KNOW you aren't the only one. There is a really good doc called The Heart of Man. I think it was so helpful to watch. I know for me...understanding what was going on behind the industry really helped me.My struggle was early in my marriage and it damaged my marriage in the sense that I was turning to a cheap fix. I have some great resources if you are interested, let me know.

Thanks Valediction & JJandy for ur support. My wife doesn’t suspect me as yet but my mind sometimes starts to think crazy like why is she not able to peform like the one in the video. I know its an absurd feeling but now i have a lot to undo. Pls share any articles or videos that would help me come out of it. Thanks for allowing me to talk openly as i never thought it was possible & this topic is a taboo in a cultured society.

Hello, I have a very similar scenario, same age however I just recently admitted to my wife about it. She’s very understanding and supportive however I feel I need some advice/tools to prevent myself from going back to it. Any suggestions?

Hello,

I have a very similar situation and age. However I recently admitted to my wife and she is very understanding and supportive. With that though I am still having issues quitting and staying the course. Any tools/advice is greatly appreciated.

Hello,

I have a very similar situation and same age. However I recently admitted to my wife and she is very understanding and supportive. With that I am still having issues quitting and need some help. Any tools/ suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Hello,

I have a very similar situation and same age. However I recently admitted to my wife and she is very understanding and supportive. With that I am still having issues quitting and need some help. Any tools/ suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Hello,

I have a very similar situation and same age. However I recently admitted to my wife and she is very understanding and supportive. With that I am still having issues quitting and need some help. Any tools/ suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I have been trying to stop my addiction. I can go for a week or even a month. I notice I may tend to get crabby. Some of the porn can be very degrading and it is all mixed together. I have to stop going back.

Hello All, I have survived for 3 days without porn !
There were many triggers yesterday evening but i kept saying not today. Thanks to all group members for the support. I hope this will continue.
Any suggestions on some hobbies that can help deviate from thoughts of porn.?
Also can anyone share scholarly articles or personal experiences how to look at someone’s face and talk. I always keep my face down or gaze somewhere else but this is a clear indicator that my mind isn’t clean. Pls help.

Great work! I’d recommend video games, weight lifting, basically anything that can take up the time you used to spend on porn. Focusing on self improvement is really the best, I feel. Also look at yoga and other meditation techniques. This addiction is mental, after all.

As for people, that’s tougher. Look people in the eye and focus on what they’re saying, not how they say it, and try to connect with them. I honestly have trouble with this myself, but every interaction I work on it. Sometimes I almost feel like “they know”, you know? But keep at it. Use your confidence from not using to rebuild yourself as you were meant to be.

Thanks Valediction1 !

I can relate on how you are feeling and what you are going through. You are not alone

Thanks Savior.
I purchased a sony camera thinking probably photography might keep me busy. So reading about the camera, tips n tricks of using it.. took some photos of moon.. though it didn’t come as expected :)
But yes thank you all for your advice & inspiring that collectively we can beat this addiction.

If we visit a therapist for this addiction will it be entered into any national registry & will that pop up during background verification.