Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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please help me stop

Boyd.p
Boyd.p

I have an addiction and my addiction is where i always have a feeling that forces me to search all the things i search and i dont want to do or look at any of these things because i wanna have a good life with my girlfriend because i dont want to keep hurting her by keep going back on looking at things i say i wouldent look at. i can promise i wont do something and i wont do it like with porn i promised that i wouldent whatch it and i havent whatched it scince i search things like fat booty girls, booty,fat booty,etc.I dont want to have to put my girlfriend through any thing else i just want a happy life and to be honise without having to lie and then she fibds out after on her owen i wanna be abe to tell her if ive done something n why i did it but i carnt because i find it  embarrassing to tell her so any tips would be helpfull 

MikeWill
MikeWill
Well you are taking the first step and posting about it. I am with you on this. I myself have had many situations where my day cannot commence until I get the craving out. Almost like withdrawal when it comes. What has helped me recently besides joining this group is telling my partner about it. In fact she knows I am doing this right now. Honesty and accountability provide backbone to the process. Your partner shouldn't shame you but support you. This is a tough addiction to beat, no doubt. If you haven't already, read the book "Atomic Habit's" by James Clear. It will teach you, how by simply making the habit hard to do (adding friction) it will create obstacles that will hopefully make the process too hard do.

Examples:
- No phone allowed while in the washroom.
- Remove the TV from your bedroom.
- Remove your computer from a private space where watching porn would be a great embarrassment to you.

- Another thing that has helped me, give your partner a text, call or big smoosh and show her that you love them. It will immediately make you feel like you are in control.

Good luck my friend.