Yes, over using the vib can make you less sensitive. I think a number of us here have learned that. If you stop using vib you will get more sensitive again.

Tolerance is a factor in all addictions.
I know for me sensitivity usually returns within abstinence.

I can't do that...if I stop I get irritable because I'm not being pleased...that causes fights and I'm scared of losing him...

Hi. Thanks for sharing your struggles. It can be triggering for some people if there is descriptive detail in your posts. Something to be mindful about.

I can really relate because I struggle with compulsive masturbation myself, as a part of my sex addiction. It was detrimental to my relationship with my wife and even with my relationship with other people, because I could become irritable and short tempered. Even though my wife and I were sexual, I was susceptible to fantasy and was not present much of the time. After entering recovery, this has improved and I don't do it nearly as often. I sought help from other people, 12 step meetings, therapy, books It is all helping me very much. I have not been perfect at it but my life has improved so much and I am very grateful. Everybody's path is different and I hope you find a way to get healthy.

Dan

You've had a rough and abusive upbringing. Have you talked this through with a therapist? You're in a cycle that is hard to get through without help. The pleasure you get from masturbating makes you feel good...but it only lasts for a short time. So you're left acting out sooner.

Try to find some healthy coping methods when you feel like you're going to need to masturbate.

Feel free to reach out to any of us. We've all been in your shoes. They might fit a little differently, but we all have struggles. Feel free to write any time.

Tim

Yes therapy was an on going thing for a long time...but it made me feel less human...Idk why...but thank you :3 I appreciate your help

Have you considered going on a sex fast? You could talk it over together and be open and share your problem with your partner. People who do this learn more about their partner's 'language of love'. Your partner can help you 'dry out' from your masturbation and you will probably find that your relationship will be much closer.

If this is too much, then it confirms that you are an addict and a twelve step programme will be more likely to help you.



https://mic.com/articles/127277/can-taking-a-90-day-sex-fast-really-help-your-relationship#.JMspOreCf

Oh wow...I might try that..thank you so much! /.\ just...afraid he will judge me...I appreciate your help and I'll definitely look into it!!