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Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
Someone please tell me why my previously over the top, horney, always wanting sex hubby totally rejects me sexually and affectionatly when I became pregnant after trying for 10 years to get pregnant? Will not touch me in any way, moved out of the bedroom and refuses to discuss it. I am at my whits end and now it's been 11 years. Yes a 10 year old daughter that she and I almost died durring birth, me at the old age of 40. 27 years now of marriage and he has totally rejected me, won't even say happy anniversary. So guys, what's your take on this?
I'm going to go with 10 months, and assume that the problems that you are having are within the past year.
Some men are simply not easily accepting of a child, no matter how much they have wanted one. It's that concept of "fantasy vs. reality", or as long as you were trying, that was great, but now "I'm older and I can't handle being a father"
thing.
Difficult birth, pain and suffering for the woman he loves, probably you have spent a lot of time caring for the baby, and now he feels "rejected" because you don't have time for him. He doesn't want to talk about it because he feels that you'll think less of him if he admitted any of this.
I may be wrong...I may be way off-base here, but based on what you've written, all the indicators are there.
Maybe try gently including him more and more. Impress on him how important he is, and how much he means to you. Try and make some time for him and give him a little "boost" to the ego now and then. I'd be willing to bet he'll come around, it just takes men more time to adjust than women. We're kinds stubborn and hard-headed, but we really do love y'all. :)