What I find surprising that you say that you sometimes can go months without it. That would've never ever happened to me. There are pages that help like yourbrainonporn.com and yourbrainrebalanced forum. 12 Step Programs also work but I think you have to actually go there. That takes courage but is the most effective way. Also you shouldn't shame yourself for doing it, just accept that you have those urges and say NO and do something constructive for releasing stress like meditation, go for a walk, sports... There are many things you can do to deal with it. Also you need to stop yourself from fantasizing all the time.

Hi, you've come to a good place for advice. We'd encourage you to seek the advice of a therapist before concluding that you have an addiction, particularly if guilt/shame is, for now, the biggest issue your porn use is causing. This may sound odd coming from us, but we think it's important to separate feelings of shame and guilt, which are of course things you should address in an appropriate setting, with the additional consequences that the majority of those struggling with addiction experience, like relationship trouble, lost time, school/work consequences, and withdrawal symptoms when you try to stop.

Our web site, www.pornhelp.org, has a long list of therapists who may be able to help you sort through these issues and to decide whether 12-step programs or other recovery work is right for you. Let us know if you need help weighing your options or finding someone.

my husband went 18 months without porn but started finding himself looking at sexually charged pictures and then had a full relapse. He then got serious about his recovery, therapy, rehab, and 12 step meetings. Fantasizing about anything isnt healthy or helpful for sex addicts that want to be in recovery. So you have to retrain your brain ..this takes a lot of hard work and dedication and outside help from a therapist that is trained in sex addiction.

Thanks everybody it's given me much to consider.