Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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Namii22 07/28/2017

I have been with my partner for a few months and our sex life is usually okay. The problem being that I cannot stop, I'm never satisfied. I have known I am a sex and pornography addict for just over 2 years and it broke my previous relationship of 5 years up when I wanted it more and more. I am never satisfied after sex or masturbating, instead it just opens my mind to needing to continue over and over again until I'm in pain. I am putting myself in more risks as time goes on and lately I am masturbating 10-15 times a day and becoming very aggressive when I'm told no. I know I need to calm down but I'm finding it extremely hard. As I'm bipolar I find that the addiction gets a lot worse when I am going through an breakdown, which recently has been going on for over 5 months and I don't seem to see an end to it anymore.

dlansky 07/28/2017

One of the insights I learned early in my recovery journey is that "you can never get enough of what can't satisfy you." Pornography, masturbation and even non-committal sex can feel great physically for a moment, but they can never fill the emptiness and inner pain we try to cover up with those things. You mention being bipolar -- are you in counseling of any kind?

I have a long history of depression and pornography was a band-aid with which I tried to hide my pain, but it only made things worse in the long run. For me, this journey has been largely about learning to address my pain in healthy ways, as well as learning to find joy in positive places.

Namii22 07/28/2017

I was in counselling before but not now. I have always rejected drugs of any kind and always found it difficult to talk to people. I still have online counselling when available bit try to use it as little as possible.. I always feel like whatever I'm doing I will eventually lose it and kill myself. Nowadays it's more of a waiting game rather than wondering

Chocol8 07/29/2017

I also have Bipolar. When hypomanic, my sex drive goes through the roof. In depression I feel so ashamed but still turn to porn and masturbation to ease the pain (momentarily).

If you are having mood cycles that are causing significant behaviour problems or feeling out of control, go and see a health professional. You need some support here, whether that is with or without medication, do not struggle on like this.

I as not able to separate the hypersexuality from the mood cycles until my treatment was working. It was only then that I could deal with the sex addiction that was clearly a separate problem.

Take care, I am wishing that your darkness will pass soon.

Namii22 06/21/2018

I’m not sure if you can both still see the message I’m typing or not but I feel I should type it just in case. With my bipolar I am back on my meds now but I’m not sure how long for and although it has helped me overall mentally I feel I am getting worse sexually. It makes it harder knowing that although my partner wants to understand, he is convinced that I will cheat every time I am not with him. I tried to explain that pornography addiction etc does not make you a cheat but he still feels the need to go through my phone and not let me speak to certain people. I understand where he’s coming from but the fact it makes him paranoid makes me want to masterbate more because it seems risky even though I’m not doing anything wrong. Help me?!

Mr-Change 06/25/2018

You must never say something or someone makes you want to do something. You choose to do or don't. And I get its not as easy as it sounds .But choose that you are better than the addiction. Choose not to masturbate or to have.It helps to be preoccupied with something beneficial to you to block such thoughts when you have alot of free time. I suggest you also read 7 habits of highly effective people
and download victory all to keep track of your progress Remember we are with you in this, You are not alone.

Namii22 06/25/2018

I know it’s noones fault, it’s my problem. I get that. I have been feeling slightly better since I’ve been throwing myself back into work but I’m now thinking that the meds are making me feel worse. I can’t desipher whether or not it’s in my head. The change of hormones I think is a lot for me to handle at this stage. I shave a doctors appointment tomorrow but am going to have to cancel I think as it interferes with the time I should still be at work and swings as that’s the only thing making me feel better I don’t want to leave and stress over work loss. I will try and rearrange but I’m now always working the times the doctors is actually open so don’t see how it’s going to work. Urgh!! Stressed to the max.

Mr-Change 06/26/2018

I sounds like you are getting worked up about work and what not. Sometimes in our bid to gain more control of ourselves we tend to actually lose all control. I understand why you want to stay at work but I feel cancelling A doctors appappointment is not the way. You would eventually have to see him or her,so why not now?

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